The Duck Stops Here
Just as a solid rock is not shaken by the storm,
even so the wise are not affected by praise or blame.
Dhammapada 6.81
I am impressed by this quote. Because they seemed to know a thing or two about narcissism back then. (Come to think of it, aren't most religions giant fortresses against the moral decline caused by social narcissism to begin with - they (needing-to?) becoming giant cults themselves.
I say this because I have leant, from my social studies, etc., that those who are easilly flattered are those who are easilly blamed. [I've seen this somewhere in the psych literature as well]. AND V ICE VERSA.
Most narcissists tend to assume all people are easilly flattered, and therefore easilly blamed - i.e., coerced, by fear. They tend to assume this because they surround themselves with flying monkeys, useful idiots and bobble-heads. And so they keep falling short in learning how reality works.
But blame rolls like water off a duck's back by grounded people who don't need or seek flattery. Which has largely been my case. Plus I have the advantage in knowing that I am actively STUDYING these narcissists.
When some people do neither accept the false flattery of narcissists, (See Mean Girls), nor their impotent blame, what do the narcissists do? How do they feel?
Well, their expansive ego-bubble has been pierced by reality, so they feel they are under some kind of attack. That is when they run off to their congregations of sheeple, crying that they are being, "victimized"! But, this in itself is yet another power-play. Attention. Attention. Attention.
But, of course, nothing is ever 100%. And most people have at least a little narcissism in them.
What's that command the NAZIs gave, for, "Attention!"?
even so the wise are not affected by praise or blame.
Dhammapada 6.81
I am impressed by this quote. Because they seemed to know a thing or two about narcissism back then. (Come to think of it, aren't most religions giant fortresses against the moral decline caused by social narcissism to begin with - they (needing-to?) becoming giant cults themselves.
I say this because I have leant, from my social studies, etc., that those who are easilly flattered are those who are easilly blamed. [I've seen this somewhere in the psych literature as well]. AND V ICE VERSA.
Most narcissists tend to assume all people are easilly flattered, and therefore easilly blamed - i.e., coerced, by fear. They tend to assume this because they surround themselves with flying monkeys, useful idiots and bobble-heads. And so they keep falling short in learning how reality works.
But blame rolls like water off a duck's back by grounded people who don't need or seek flattery. Which has largely been my case. Plus I have the advantage in knowing that I am actively STUDYING these narcissists.
When some people do neither accept the false flattery of narcissists, (See Mean Girls), nor their impotent blame, what do the narcissists do? How do they feel?
Well, their expansive ego-bubble has been pierced by reality, so they feel they are under some kind of attack. That is when they run off to their congregations of sheeple, crying that they are being, "victimized"! But, this in itself is yet another power-play. Attention. Attention. Attention.
But, of course, nothing is ever 100%. And most people have at least a little narcissism in them.
What's that command the NAZIs gave, for, "Attention!"?