Freedom's In The Heart, wha ha heh...
Well, my wonderful little brother took me for a second shot at getting a DL. Met the Estonian lady, again, and made her laugh. Another nice experience, although I was sicker, this time. Nothing flared up - no serious migraine or cognitive. So, I pretty much sailed through the test, and now I have a DL!
Talking with brother was slightly more gravelly. (Literally, I was getting exhausted and my voice getting gravelly). I tried to be real politic. You know what I mean. I tried to say, "it doesn't look like I am working on things, but I am working on things, and I like working on things." But, when you say you like doing things yourself, people might tend to forget that your disability reeeeealy gets in the way of that - and poses its challenges, that you are busy rising to, each and every day. So, instead, they may feel insulted or chagrined. Like you are blowing them off.
The opposite is true. For example, the whole reason I was sicker, this time, was because I lifted a thing or two, two days ago. Ergo, CFS symptoms yesterday and today. So, even though, "I like doing things myself," it helps my endurance, through crises, if other people would simply lift things for me. Until this is over. But, he has never offered to help me move. In fact, it seems like he has been trying to hide the fact that he even has a truck. So, now he may feel he has even more reason not to offer to help. But, help with the physical stuff is something I need badly.
I can't lift a couch by myself. Or boxes of canned food. Etc.
It's always a tight-rope. Well, more later. Next, figure out how to use the evening hours...
Even when obstacles crowd in,
the path to Nibbana can be won
by those who establish mindfulness
and bring to perfection equipoise.
Saṃyutta Nikāya 1.88
It was fun.
Talking with brother was slightly more gravelly. (Literally, I was getting exhausted and my voice getting gravelly). I tried to be real politic. You know what I mean. I tried to say, "it doesn't look like I am working on things, but I am working on things, and I like working on things." But, when you say you like doing things yourself, people might tend to forget that your disability reeeeealy gets in the way of that - and poses its challenges, that you are busy rising to, each and every day. So, instead, they may feel insulted or chagrined. Like you are blowing them off.
The opposite is true. For example, the whole reason I was sicker, this time, was because I lifted a thing or two, two days ago. Ergo, CFS symptoms yesterday and today. So, even though, "I like doing things myself," it helps my endurance, through crises, if other people would simply lift things for me. Until this is over. But, he has never offered to help me move. In fact, it seems like he has been trying to hide the fact that he even has a truck. So, now he may feel he has even more reason not to offer to help. But, help with the physical stuff is something I need badly.
I can't lift a couch by myself. Or boxes of canned food. Etc.
It's always a tight-rope. Well, more later. Next, figure out how to use the evening hours...
Even when obstacles crowd in,
the path to Nibbana can be won
by those who establish mindfulness
and bring to perfection equipoise.
Saṃyutta Nikāya 1.88
It was fun.