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what about kids?!?
is it more selfish for someone to not want kids cause they don't quite want any anyway they just feel like living their lives for themselves, and avoid ending up needing your children to support you and take care of you 'til you die?
or is it more selfish for someone to want kids so that way they have people to be in charge of... that way they can make their kids feel guilty whenever they feel like it, they get to control their kids' lives as they wish, being mad at them for not living the lives their parents would have hoped to get but ended up settling for less since they started to have kids... to eventually have kids to lean on for all the housework as soon as they're old enough to help out and to take care of the parents when they're too old to do much for themselves anymore?!? isn't it just as selfish as not wanting kids to want kids just so you sorta leave a legacy?!? like leaving something after you?!?
I mean I know my gf wants kids... well feels like she does anyway... and sometimes I even feel sorta pressured into it... but I don't know if I want kids... they're cute and all... but dunno... and I'm sure as hell not questionning her motives... I mean I dunno why she wants kids, but I don't know why I don't want kids either... lol so that's not where I'm at... just wondering on the "selfish" comment... cause it seems to be pretty common... *shrugs*
and yes, my gf does read my journal... but it doesn't matter... I've come to the conclusion that I shouldn't censor myself in my journal... + I've always had a hard time opening up... so if she ends up reading stuff here, I figure she'll just have a lil insight into what's going on in my mind... can't be that bad no?!?
is it more selfish for someone to not want kids cause they don't quite want any anyway they just feel like living their lives for themselves, and avoid ending up needing your children to support you and take care of you 'til you die?
or is it more selfish for someone to want kids so that way they have people to be in charge of... that way they can make their kids feel guilty whenever they feel like it, they get to control their kids' lives as they wish, being mad at them for not living the lives their parents would have hoped to get but ended up settling for less since they started to have kids... to eventually have kids to lean on for all the housework as soon as they're old enough to help out and to take care of the parents when they're too old to do much for themselves anymore?!? isn't it just as selfish as not wanting kids to want kids just so you sorta leave a legacy?!? like leaving something after you?!?
I mean I know my gf wants kids... well feels like she does anyway... and sometimes I even feel sorta pressured into it... but I don't know if I want kids... they're cute and all... but dunno... and I'm sure as hell not questionning her motives... I mean I dunno why she wants kids, but I don't know why I don't want kids either... lol so that's not where I'm at... just wondering on the "selfish" comment... cause it seems to be pretty common... *shrugs*
and yes, my gf does read my journal... but it doesn't matter... I've come to the conclusion that I shouldn't censor myself in my journal... + I've always had a hard time opening up... so if she ends up reading stuff here, I figure she'll just have a lil insight into what's going on in my mind... can't be that bad no?!?