Rejection, what they didn't teach us in kindergarten
I just recently turned 25, and on schedule I am a law school graduated. Before that, I graduated on schedule from college. Before that, K-12. I've learned a lot, in fact, I'd venture to guess I'm over-educated. But during all these years of schooling, they never taught us the most important lesson of all. Rejection.
Rejection, or the fear of it, still stifles me today. In my entire school career, I only really remember two rejections (1) from my jr. high soccer team (which was ok, because I, unlike most soccer players I know, still have two functioning ACL's) and (2) when I lost ASB Activities position (which was ok, because since there weren't enough people to vote for me in the first place, there weren't really enough people to remember I lost). I was woefully unpreppared for both of those tasks, having only been to maybe 2 ASB meetings prior and only having PE soccer experience. And in both those realms, I succeeded in other ways (e.g. MVP for track and field, ASUCH Treasurer)
Job hunting is the same way. Love is the same way. Now, I won't name any names, but some of the most successful people I know, brilliant, kind, and attractive, cannot for the life of them handle dating rejection. I can't handle job rejection. I mope around and wonder what I will ever be good for. This in turn, means I apply for a paltry small amount of jobs and accept whatever offer comes my way. Instead of doing real job hunting, for fear or real job rejection, I've been skating by. Sometimes, like today, I procrastinate rejection and apply for a job so late the position has been filled. And, I wanted that job in the first place.
So no more. I met with the career services counslor and we've revised a decent resume that even makes me a little impressed. I'm keeping track of sites, I will network, I will apply to jobs, on time. I will not let them slip me by, I will not let myself defeat me.
As for my friends afraid of love, for crying outloud, you have a fuckin' job so don't make me throttle you. Take a chance, get rejected, take a chance, get rejected. That's life and it's not a lesson you'll learn in school. But unfortunately, to live, it's a lesson that has to be learned.
Rejection, or the fear of it, still stifles me today. In my entire school career, I only really remember two rejections (1) from my jr. high soccer team (which was ok, because I, unlike most soccer players I know, still have two functioning ACL's) and (2) when I lost ASB Activities position (which was ok, because since there weren't enough people to vote for me in the first place, there weren't really enough people to remember I lost). I was woefully unpreppared for both of those tasks, having only been to maybe 2 ASB meetings prior and only having PE soccer experience. And in both those realms, I succeeded in other ways (e.g. MVP for track and field, ASUCH Treasurer)
Job hunting is the same way. Love is the same way. Now, I won't name any names, but some of the most successful people I know, brilliant, kind, and attractive, cannot for the life of them handle dating rejection. I can't handle job rejection. I mope around and wonder what I will ever be good for. This in turn, means I apply for a paltry small amount of jobs and accept whatever offer comes my way. Instead of doing real job hunting, for fear or real job rejection, I've been skating by. Sometimes, like today, I procrastinate rejection and apply for a job so late the position has been filled. And, I wanted that job in the first place.
So no more. I met with the career services counslor and we've revised a decent resume that even makes me a little impressed. I'm keeping track of sites, I will network, I will apply to jobs, on time. I will not let them slip me by, I will not let myself defeat me.
As for my friends afraid of love, for crying outloud, you have a fuckin' job so don't make me throttle you. Take a chance, get rejected, take a chance, get rejected. That's life and it's not a lesson you'll learn in school. But unfortunately, to live, it's a lesson that has to be learned.