Did I just do something wrong?
I got an unexpected call yesterday from a good friend. She sounded strained and asked if she could stay over for around three days. Apparently, she's a victim of yet another spousal infedelity and was in a wreck. She needed a place away from her life so she could calm down and think.
I and two of our friends were with her in Alabang today trying to decipher the incident and put our opinions on the table. I can see it's very difficult for her - but it's a good thing I've seen my mom in a much worse situation so I was able to offer some healthy advice. I just find it ironic that how one of the world's most loathsome vice has a predictable behavioural pattern. From the way the cheating party acts to the reaction of the affected one. Her depression has been erratic. There are times when she's fine and times when she suddenly burst into tears.
On my part, I listen to her woes but learnt from my previous experience that you should also try to keep things in a normal state so I veer away from the subject when I can. The thing is, I also learnt that personally, I keep away from heavy emotional baggage. It's like incidents from the year before left a traumatic mark and I'm not ready to relive it just yet.
So, I did what any good friend would do. I gave her a sleeping pill.
Hey, she hasn't slept in 5 days and I think that it should help her regain her strength and induce some clarity. Right? Yikes.
I and two of our friends were with her in Alabang today trying to decipher the incident and put our opinions on the table. I can see it's very difficult for her - but it's a good thing I've seen my mom in a much worse situation so I was able to offer some healthy advice. I just find it ironic that how one of the world's most loathsome vice has a predictable behavioural pattern. From the way the cheating party acts to the reaction of the affected one. Her depression has been erratic. There are times when she's fine and times when she suddenly burst into tears.
On my part, I listen to her woes but learnt from my previous experience that you should also try to keep things in a normal state so I veer away from the subject when I can. The thing is, I also learnt that personally, I keep away from heavy emotional baggage. It's like incidents from the year before left a traumatic mark and I'm not ready to relive it just yet.
So, I did what any good friend would do. I gave her a sleeping pill.
Hey, she hasn't slept in 5 days and I think that it should help her regain her strength and induce some clarity. Right? Yikes.