More insights that arent mine.
http://hugoschwyzer.net/2007/04/10/restraining-the-ego-and-leaving-doors-unopened-a-note-about-crushes-flirtation-and-the-desire-to-know/
"I can’t think of a more tempting - and more disastrous - reason to begin any love affair than “curiosity.”"
"Flirtation, particularly when we are married or in committed relationship, brings us dangerously close to one of the most pernicious sins of all. No, I don’t mean adultery. I mean the sin of using another human being to soothe our own anxiety, to feed our ravenous ego. Sending out “mixed messages” that arouse interest, deliberately fishing about to see if we can get a little “stroking” - this is toxic, manipulative, adolescent."
Hmm. My sexual identiy needs my anylitical, critical attention.
"I can’t think of a more tempting - and more disastrous - reason to begin any love affair than “curiosity.”"
"Flirtation, particularly when we are married or in committed relationship, brings us dangerously close to one of the most pernicious sins of all. No, I don’t mean adultery. I mean the sin of using another human being to soothe our own anxiety, to feed our ravenous ego. Sending out “mixed messages” that arouse interest, deliberately fishing about to see if we can get a little “stroking” - this is toxic, manipulative, adolescent."
Hmm. My sexual identiy needs my anylitical, critical attention.