Online dating

[m_lo_ol_m]

This whole online dating thing is sad, sad, sad. Whatever happened to the courtesy of a reply, even if it's a flat-out "No."? Even if it's a flat out "Yuckgetthefuckawayfrommeyouhippiefreakdrugaddict!"? That's a whole lot less psyche-damaging than no reply at all. Either everyone's lying about looking for "new friends," or lying about their typing

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[jp5040]

hi

I met a wonderful man recently on plentyoffish

I agree though - the bisexuality issue is hard for some gay men to bend their minds around. They feel threatened by us. That we have a "choice" in a way. well we do not. It is no choice - why choose to be a part of no community at all? It's not really fair. I would also say that many gay men seem fine with it. I tell them I am making a choice in my life to be with people who understand me better. That women are not usually that ready to accept it.

I am not disagreeing about the dating stuff either - online dating is hard. I find some guys are only into themselves and they do it to stoke there ego flames. They want you to feed them compliments so they feel sexy - but they are not there for real interaction. I also think many guys who are socially inept are online while those of us with kind hearts often are - but are guarded. It's not easy to find out which is which. I also think when we do find a nice person we (th nice guys) go offline for the length of time it takes to find out if that one is for real or not. While the not so nice guys continue to hunt. So the population of potentials is very small compaired to the dorks, assholes and loosers.

what's wrong with your hair?
I'[m not seeing that as an issue. BUT... too many metrosexuals who shave their whole body and obsess over natural male qualities. You guys know who you are /:-# I don't mind a sexy metro guy though, as long as he accepts I won't shave every hair off my chest for him!

Oh - I know you waxed yours - sorry - but that was a funny pic!

Well - have a good evening - you will find a cool guy who likes you and wants to take his time - it will happen.

[m_lo_ol_m]

Ah, my hair, I was visualizing my online ad when I wrote that, but you don't have that luxury. And I'm not sure my hair's visible in that chest-wax pic I posted. I wear my hair rather long-- about mid-back. It's something you either like or dislike.

I waxed my chest just to say I did it, plus I was kind of hoping that it wouldn't grow back as thick. Alas, it seems to be.

I'm glad you mentioned the guys that go online to have their egos stroked. I've a feeling that the guy I'm having dinner with tomorrow might be more into me than I him, and I'm worried that he might try to keep flattering me, an easy trap to fall into. I intend to be totally up front with him, though, so I hope that doesn't happen.

[jp5040]

I saw your hair was pulled back - i assumed hippie length - lol
But I'm from the kootenays - we have lots of long hair guys here.
As long as it's not a mullet - that's fine with me :D

I figured the chest wax was a personal "not take myself too serious" thing.

take care - I hope you enjoy that guy even if he's not your sex type. maybe a friend? maybe a surprise. never know. Good luck.

You will find the one... He will suddenly arrive and you will be surprised. I hope I found mine with this latest guy. the trouble is when you find a compatible one there is a lot of fear suddenly that this compatibility is already broken by some hidden flaw. It's not that easy. i think he's a very cautious person and I need to give him a lot of respect for that. I am a risk taker, but i can understand caution. I need my own space too, but I'm not afraid to claim it. Some people need proof that you are what you claim to be. This is where finding that special person is difficult.