Lying - Ugh
How do you make it stop?
I'm at a complete loss. Both girls are lying at home and at school. A more so than L, but L is making an effort to keep up. Sigh.
A really has a history of it and lies about something pretty much every day. Big lies, little lies, stupid lies. There have been some doosies in the past. The most recent one - she told her class that she went to Hawaii over the Christmas break. It would of been comical if she didn't lie all the time. (OK - I did laugh when I found out)
The other thing she does on a regular basis is attempts to triangulate between school and home. Fortunately the teacher and I are on to her and her teacher e-mails me daily. In the past (first grade) she had three different stories going between the school, home, and her after school provider over a particular incident. Then in general if she's on a roll her lies get crazy big, she just keeps adding and adding to the story.
Oh, the other thing she does is "not pay attention". Which, of course is complete BS. She listens, she knows the rules at school and home, but she chooses to do what she wants to do regardless. She's very defiant, she's just very quiet about it.
And now, L is picking up on the lying thing. Her big thing has been "forgetting" her homework and then telling me she doesn't have any. She did it about this time last year too. Luckily her teacher and I have good communication too and we'll get her back on track with her homework quickly. Her other lies are, in a way, the usual kind - trying to stay out of trouble and trying to get her sister in trouble.
Any suggestions on how to deal with the lying? So far we've tried...
writing sentences
going to be early
time outs
loss of privledges
we've explained why lying is wrong
we've lied to them on purpose but not conistently enough to really make a point
not talking to or listening to the lying person, again haven't been super consistent
And so far there has been no behavior change. Clearly we have a need to be more consistent. Let me tell though it's really hard for me to not talk to someone or completely ignore them. It's equally hard for me to lie. I hate, hate, hate lying. It's making me crazy.
I'm at a complete loss. Both girls are lying at home and at school. A more so than L, but L is making an effort to keep up. Sigh.
A really has a history of it and lies about something pretty much every day. Big lies, little lies, stupid lies. There have been some doosies in the past. The most recent one - she told her class that she went to Hawaii over the Christmas break. It would of been comical if she didn't lie all the time. (OK - I did laugh when I found out)
The other thing she does on a regular basis is attempts to triangulate between school and home. Fortunately the teacher and I are on to her and her teacher e-mails me daily. In the past (first grade) she had three different stories going between the school, home, and her after school provider over a particular incident. Then in general if she's on a roll her lies get crazy big, she just keeps adding and adding to the story.
Oh, the other thing she does is "not pay attention". Which, of course is complete BS. She listens, she knows the rules at school and home, but she chooses to do what she wants to do regardless. She's very defiant, she's just very quiet about it.
And now, L is picking up on the lying thing. Her big thing has been "forgetting" her homework and then telling me she doesn't have any. She did it about this time last year too. Luckily her teacher and I have good communication too and we'll get her back on track with her homework quickly. Her other lies are, in a way, the usual kind - trying to stay out of trouble and trying to get her sister in trouble.
Any suggestions on how to deal with the lying? So far we've tried...
writing sentences
going to be early
time outs
loss of privledges
we've explained why lying is wrong
we've lied to them on purpose but not conistently enough to really make a point
not talking to or listening to the lying person, again haven't been super consistent
And so far there has been no behavior change. Clearly we have a need to be more consistent. Let me tell though it's really hard for me to not talk to someone or completely ignore them. It's equally hard for me to lie. I hate, hate, hate lying. It's making me crazy.