Lessons learned...
What I have learned from the past four years:
01] Do not lower yourself, your standards or your morals for someone else. Doing so is only a betrayal of yourself and they will only expect you to lower yourself more as time goes on.
02] If someone betrays your trust and they are not willing to work to prove themselves trustworthy, get out - run away as fast as you can. Believe in the old adage 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.'
03] If someone constantly starts projects or talks about doing/starting things and then never finishes or goes through with them, take that as a sign of something bigger/deeper.
04] Truth, trust, respect, loyalty and honor are not negotiable aspects of a relationship.
05] When it comes to the important things in life, never just tell someone you care about what you think they want to hear when you know it's not true.
06] Never take each other for granted. Take time to appreciate each other and let each other know you care.
07] Don't prolong the inevitable. If you know you don't want to be in the relationship, be honest. If you know you do want to be in the relationship, be honest.
08] Good communication is far more important that most people think it is.
09] Be passionate about and with each other.
10] Relationships take work, patience and understanding. If you're not willing to put in the effort and energy, be honest about that and don't lead the other person on by making them think you're willing to give what you're not.
11] Be best friends and lovers.
12] You had better be willing to give exactly what you want back. If you expect honesty, stability, loyalty, and passion you had better give honesty, stability, loyalty and passion.
13] Trust your gut instincts. Be true to yourself.
14] Don't date someone that refers to you as "good breeding stock."
01] Do not lower yourself, your standards or your morals for someone else. Doing so is only a betrayal of yourself and they will only expect you to lower yourself more as time goes on.
02] If someone betrays your trust and they are not willing to work to prove themselves trustworthy, get out - run away as fast as you can. Believe in the old adage 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.'
03] If someone constantly starts projects or talks about doing/starting things and then never finishes or goes through with them, take that as a sign of something bigger/deeper.
04] Truth, trust, respect, loyalty and honor are not negotiable aspects of a relationship.
05] When it comes to the important things in life, never just tell someone you care about what you think they want to hear when you know it's not true.
06] Never take each other for granted. Take time to appreciate each other and let each other know you care.
07] Don't prolong the inevitable. If you know you don't want to be in the relationship, be honest. If you know you do want to be in the relationship, be honest.
08] Good communication is far more important that most people think it is.
09] Be passionate about and with each other.
10] Relationships take work, patience and understanding. If you're not willing to put in the effort and energy, be honest about that and don't lead the other person on by making them think you're willing to give what you're not.
11] Be best friends and lovers.
12] You had better be willing to give exactly what you want back. If you expect honesty, stability, loyalty, and passion you had better give honesty, stability, loyalty and passion.
13] Trust your gut instincts. Be true to yourself.
14] Don't date someone that refers to you as "good breeding stock."