Relationships
The events of the past few days have really gotten me to think about relationships in general. I was talking to my mom yesterday, and she was in such a state of shock that people our age and younger could already be so encumbered with so much emotional baggage from prior relationships. And honestly, I have to say I agree with her. She also remarked that when she was growing up, people didn't stay friends after a relationship had been torn asunder. I know that we (myself included) would like to that that our generation might be "more evolved" than that of our progenitors, but maybe, just maybe they had the right idea.
After a relationship progresses, it is absolutely impossible by the laws of time to go backwards. There will always be a history between those two people, one that can't easily be forgotten, if ever. The amount of pain and hurt that I have witnessed friends of mine bear just... I can't believe it. Why do people subject themselves to this? Because they're in love? Which brings me to my next point.
I believe in love above all things. However, from what I've seen, people fall in love way too quickly for their own well-being. To bare your soul and your everything to someone whom you love should never be taken lightly, and in the mere weeks people have told me it has taken them to fall in love, they could not have possibly known everything there is to know about their significant other, something that I believe is of paramount importance. That may be why the divorce rate is so high nowadays. What if you declare your love for someone and then you find out one thing between you that makes you basically incompatible? Or you declare your love for someone, but you're never happy and you fight often over petty things? In my mind, my concept of love transcends that. Yes, people in love do fight, and i know that no relationship is perfect by any means. I'm just trying to wrap my brain around why so many people have this baggage that we, as young adults, should not have.
I've heard it said that if you know you can't have what you want, there's no profit in wishing for it. Well, I don't think that's true, so I'm going to make a wish.
I wish that people would wake up, and realize that they deserve to be happy. Too much of some people's lives is wasted thinking that they are unworthy of love or happiness. EVERYONE deserves to be happy. EVERYONE deserves to be loved.
I wish that people would be clear on what they want. But of course, people need a sense of identity before they can know what they want. If you're not clear on who you are, you're certainly not clear on what you want. The only alternative is to settle for something when you could have better.
I just love putting myself out there and not knowing where I'm going. So? What are your thoughts?
After a relationship progresses, it is absolutely impossible by the laws of time to go backwards. There will always be a history between those two people, one that can't easily be forgotten, if ever. The amount of pain and hurt that I have witnessed friends of mine bear just... I can't believe it. Why do people subject themselves to this? Because they're in love? Which brings me to my next point.
I believe in love above all things. However, from what I've seen, people fall in love way too quickly for their own well-being. To bare your soul and your everything to someone whom you love should never be taken lightly, and in the mere weeks people have told me it has taken them to fall in love, they could not have possibly known everything there is to know about their significant other, something that I believe is of paramount importance. That may be why the divorce rate is so high nowadays. What if you declare your love for someone and then you find out one thing between you that makes you basically incompatible? Or you declare your love for someone, but you're never happy and you fight often over petty things? In my mind, my concept of love transcends that. Yes, people in love do fight, and i know that no relationship is perfect by any means. I'm just trying to wrap my brain around why so many people have this baggage that we, as young adults, should not have.
I've heard it said that if you know you can't have what you want, there's no profit in wishing for it. Well, I don't think that's true, so I'm going to make a wish.
I wish that people would wake up, and realize that they deserve to be happy. Too much of some people's lives is wasted thinking that they are unworthy of love or happiness. EVERYONE deserves to be happy. EVERYONE deserves to be loved.
I wish that people would be clear on what they want. But of course, people need a sense of identity before they can know what they want. If you're not clear on who you are, you're certainly not clear on what you want. The only alternative is to settle for something when you could have better.
I just love putting myself out there and not knowing where I'm going. So? What are your thoughts?