The Obligatory Engagement Post

[luthic24]

Okay, so by now you're all probably aware that Jared and Sandy are engaged.  There have been several, several posts about this across fandom, and rather than replying to everybody else's journal, I've decided to just post my own thoughts on my own journal and get it over with.

First off, I am happy for them.  Truly.  This will in no way impact my

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[siubhlach]

*grins* Ah, publicity weddings. They're always fun. Reminds me of the Anthea Turner(English TV presenter) marriage photos, where she and her new husband posed with brandname chocolate bars for some reason. The backlash from the British public was insane!

I have seen the many multitudes of millions posts about how terrible/sad/beautiful/tragic/awesome/trashy/'insert descriptor here' it is that Jared and Sandy were getting married. I have ignored pretty much the whole lot of them because I have to admit, I don't care. Hell, I don't care whenever a friend or family member 'shares the joyous news' that they are getting married (to the point that I'm renowned for my lack of enthusiasm.) Weddings make me want to stick my tongue out and pull faces like a four-year-old eating brussel sprouts! On the plus side, there's no possibility of being invited to Jared and Sandy's wedding, so at least I don't have to think up excuses not to attend this time :D

In terms of fic writing, I really don't understand how it makes a difference. I am well aware that the J's who live in my head aren't real people. For starters, they have better sex than anybody I've ever met (am I doing something wrong...?)! They also only ever have girlfriends if it suits my story for them to (I can and have ignored Sandy and Danneel completely in the past.) I don't see how the move from 'long-term girlfriend' to 'fiancee' makes even the slightest bit of difference.

I best stop now. Otherwise I'll move on to all my standard bitches about marriage and weddings and you'll end up incredibly, incredibly bored!

[luthic24]

Yeah, I get the wedding thing. I'm usually at the "crap, can I get out of it without destroying a friendship?" place when people ask me to go.

And as far as fic writing goes, I completely agree, which is why I posted what I did. I've seen people say "If they get engaged/married, I'm out of this fandom!" *dramatic swoon added for emphasis* I really don't get that. for the love of bob, in the fics I'm working on, Sandy or Daneel only exist about 50% of the time anyway. no big.

And I'd never get bored listening to someone bitch about weddings. I dislike them intensely. If I could myself get married, I might feel different, but in this country and in this state, that's not going to happen any time soon, so until then, I'm bitter. :D

[siubhlach]

*laughs* Oh, sweetie, my general response to "We're getting married." is "Oh, right, okay then." I've organised three of the bloody things and bridesmaided four and I still hate them.

Yeah, I've seen that before. To which my response is to roll my eyes and move on. I mean, come on - I have one on the go and one about to be started where the boys are hookers. Be serious kids, it's not real! Actually, reading rps slash always reminds me of the film 'Love, Honour and Obey' where pretty much every character is named after the actor who plays him. I always see the boys as pretty much playing the roles we have cast them in and the characters just happen to share their names...

Oh god, I'm with you. I could get married but sweet Jesus I'd rather gouge my eyes out with a spoon. My brother is under strict instruction that he is the one who has to get hitched and spew out the kids (his response to that suggestion is actually unrepeatable - we sort of share opinions on this one) because, frankly, I have no desire to spend £10,000+ on a dress I don't want, a ceremony I don't care about and to host a party where I either don't know or don't want to know half the people there. But then, I am also a commitment-phobe... Added to which, the phrase 'it'll be your turn next' makes me want to either hit things or drain the bar dry!

Awww, hon, you could always come over here and get yourself a 'civil partnership' (because we can't call it marriage, oh no, that would be offensive *eyeroll again*)

[luthic24]

Yeah, you know, even if I could get married, I don't know that I would. We've been together for nine years (later this month is actually our anniversary), so I think that we're pretty damn committed. The commitment phobia sort of faded off about year five, honestly, 'cause he's just...the right guy. I just don't know if I need a ceremony to prove it to the world.

Okay, that's enough there before I get any more sappy. Ug.

[siubhlach]

*twitches at the whole concept of relationships that last years. Or, indeed, months*

*Goes to get coffee and nictoine to still the twitch*

Longest relationship to date? Three and a half months. Go figure.

One of my friends, just before his wedding, told me he wanted said wedding because "there are only two occasions in your life that you get all of your friends together for something. You're only breathing for one of them." His marriage ended in divorce...

I still think too many people rush into marriage, but I may not be the best judge on that *looking back at the less-than-four-months thing*