The things we did for love...
So when last we spoke things were a little up in the air with the relationship that was sort of developing between (we'll just call him Ryan) the guy and me. As much as i liked talking with him and spending time with him, I had to be honest with myself. It wasn't the guy I saw myself spending the rest of my life with - that position had already been filled.
Even after the divorce and after all the drama and after all the endless conversations I had with friends, family, co-workers and some other folks I'm sure - I find myself in a similar boat to the one I was in a few years back. James and I are attempting to work things out and we are definitely taking our time. This isn't somthing that was stumbled upon or something that was forced... hence the title divorcé that I wear so proudly.
We had been talking at least once a week since April 2011, then talking led to impromptu meetings at random hours, which led to more talking and texting! Eventually, we started going to social gatherings together with mutual friends and making attempts to be civil and friendly. Ther was always this underlined tension... not good or bad... just tension. We came to the conclusion that we needed to see what was happening between us. So we hung out without friends a few times and I must say, it felt great.
Hold on, wait... i left out the fact that I had a minor birthday gettogether and he and 3 other friends showed up... mind you 20 people rsvp'd. I am just glad that he was there, cause thats when all my inhibitions went right out the window, well not all of them but a good number of them.
We've started in couples counseling to get rid of all the bad energy and start fresh, which seems to be going well. I believe the rest is falling in line and in the right time. Not trying to really push or pull, i want things to develop naturally! I'll keep you posted with the results.
Even after the divorce and after all the drama and after all the endless conversations I had with friends, family, co-workers and some other folks I'm sure - I find myself in a similar boat to the one I was in a few years back. James and I are attempting to work things out and we are definitely taking our time. This isn't somthing that was stumbled upon or something that was forced... hence the title divorcé that I wear so proudly.
We had been talking at least once a week since April 2011, then talking led to impromptu meetings at random hours, which led to more talking and texting! Eventually, we started going to social gatherings together with mutual friends and making attempts to be civil and friendly. Ther was always this underlined tension... not good or bad... just tension. We came to the conclusion that we needed to see what was happening between us. So we hung out without friends a few times and I must say, it felt great.
Hold on, wait... i left out the fact that I had a minor birthday gettogether and he and 3 other friends showed up... mind you 20 people rsvp'd. I am just glad that he was there, cause thats when all my inhibitions went right out the window, well not all of them but a good number of them.
We've started in couples counseling to get rid of all the bad energy and start fresh, which seems to be going well. I believe the rest is falling in line and in the right time. Not trying to really push or pull, i want things to develop naturally! I'll keep you posted with the results.