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I posted this today on a few Military Support group forums, hoping that I can get some insight & also more things I should take into consideration if/when something like this should happen. I just wanted to post what I wrote so you guys can see it. Also if any Army National Guard/Military Girlfriends/Fiances/Wives are interested in Be-Friending me, feel free!
" Hello all, my name is Jessica. I am not sure how long I might be a member of this Community, I’m not sure if it would be right of me to join or not but I just had some questions, concerns about your Military men going to Iraq & stuff. I just want to know, what are the hardest parts? What do you do to get yourself through the days when you really miss him? How is he going to change? Will he even change? What should I expect when he comes back home? Just any and all info anyone would like to share.
I am engaged to a Army National Guardsmen, I was not dating him when he was in training etc., he was dating someone else at that time. That was about a year or two ago he joined. So I never had to go through any of that kind of stuff. Recently we were talking about how sometimes he thinks about volunteering to go to Iraq. But he didn’t want to because he would miss his friends & me way to much because it was difficult enough when he was in training, he doesn’t want to be gone for so long. Anyways, he asked me what I thought & I told him it was ultimately up to him what he wanted to do, which shocked him because no one had ever told him before that it was his decision, it was mostly about others feelings, not his. Anyways, long story short, he said he would think about it & if he was deciding on going he would talk to me about it first & we would decide together.
So I guess my reason for writing this is to just get an idea of what he & I might be going through if he did decide to go. I know a lot of nothing about this military stuff, would never do it but give crazy props to those who are amazing enough to do it. I guess I just need different points of view as to how I should think about everything etc. when we might actually have this talk, things I should consider besides the fact that "I’ll miss you like crazy while your gone!" and stuff. Thank you so much if anyone is willing to share some stories/info. God Bless all you wonderful women who have crazy brave Soldiers!
♥ Jessica 23/f/Indiana "
So there you have it... I've gotten 2 replies back & they were pretty nice girls. I'm still deciding how I feel about this kind of stuff, but eh. Ultimately it is up to my Soldier & I'm down with whatever he decides to do. Thanks for readin. I've got nothing to spectacular to post at 5am haha. I'm going to bed now, Gnight!
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