Just an update
So, since last time (not counting my non-sober rambling post) some things has happened. Nothing dramatic or big or so! But just a few things I, for some reason, feel the need to share :)
You know that guy who practically gave me a "declaration of love"? Yeah, he went mental on me one time too many, so I sort of ended the friendship.
[basically the whole story]The first time, I had an update on FB saying "So I guess Färjestad sucked and lost? The updates with sadfaces in a row! ;D" (Färjestad is the local hockey team). And he started with asking me what I know about hockey, and since this was a funny-just-joking update, I stayed in character and said something like "It's a spoooooort. Played on ice. The ball is flat. KINDA?" but he wouldn't have it and made it into a serious and big deal about how I must think that everyone who doesn't win sucks and are awful, and that this and this and this. One of my sisters, one of my friends and my mum liked a few of my comments, and the friend commented that you don't have to over-analyse things. But he did. He'd rather over analyse than under analyse. Or whatever.
Then I got a humongous PM containing things like... I am stupid, of course all my friends and family members agrees with me, even though I am not right etc etc.
So I tried to explain everything to him, but he wouldn't have it. So I ended up ignoring him for about 4½ days (the fifth day, he came up to me and apologised).
This last time, we were talking at out thing, in the kitchen, at lunch time, about friends. And I said that honesty is the most important thing you have with your friends, and he said that loyalty is. All of a sudden, we got in to a discussion about our last... Mishap, where I said that my friends (and family) do not like my comments out of sympathy, it's because they agree. If he would've said something they'd agree with, they would like his comments. Me and my friends have a lot of different opinions, and we are not afraid to say so. But as usual, he wouldn't have it, told me that I don't get it. And stormed off. (at this point, I wrote to him on FB asking him to tell me what he meant, when he had calmed down) Then he came back, threw his backpack on the floor, rattled with cups and plates on the kitchen sink, turned around to get a tissue from the table (where I was sitting), and bumped in to the table so it moved. So I gave him this "what the hell are you doing?"-look, and he said "What??" and I calmly said "I think it's ridiculous that you are angry because we have different opinions". But again, I got the same ol' speech about how I don't get it, how I am stupid, yadda yadda. So I said "Obviously, both honesty and loyalty are important in a friendship". But since that wasn't what I said in the first place, he didn't care.
I left right after that (I'm off after lunch anyway). After a while, I got a phone call from my supervisor asking me how I was doing (she heard about the... Mishap) and I answered that I was okay, and if someone has a problem, it's him. She had talked to him too, telling him that it's not okay to slam doors and stuff(!!).
A few moments later, I got a PM from him on FB saying that I would probably be called in for a talk with the supervisor about "our thing", because he had just had his. And I replied that it isn't "our thing" it's his thing, cause he makes it into a thing when it isn't a thing. And so we got into another discussion, mostly containing stuff about how I am self-righteous, how I only say things around other people so that we can gang up on him, etc etc.
But I got to explain the whole honesty/loyalty thing. And then I simply said we should just stop. Stop our communication, since we misinterpret thing all the time, and it ends up with him angry (and maybe more?) and me feeling bad because I have no idea what even happened. And to round off the whole thing, he said that if you leave him, you leave him for good. (which I didn't response to), and the morning after he had sent me "I deserved a better ending", and he had blocked me or deactivated his FB or something.
He has talked to me a couple of times this last week, asking me about my cat and if they've caught the person who is killing cats around here (I said "He's an indoor cat" and "I have no idea").
You know my younger sister who is gayish? She wrote to me earlier this week and asked me if I knew where she could get a hold of The L Word, cause its soooooo good! I laughed a bit, and said that maybe it's good at first, but after watching it a few times... Not so much :P
But she is young and she is unenlightened, so... Okay. She checked the (two free) streaming sites I know of, but couldn't find anything, so I said that I have it, and that she could borrow it. So she got the first and most of the second season (I decided to take it bit by bit, since she has a tendency of losing things).
And speaking of television!
I've started watching the last season of The Big C. There's only four episodes and so you kind of get the hint of how it will end.
I usually cry to this show, but these episodes (two has aired so far)... I am really bawling my eyes out. Don't know if it is that it is really sad/heart warming or if it's the fact that I haven't had a good cry in quite a while, that there are many things I have bottled up and when I start crying, it all just comes pouring out. Or if it is a mix of both, perhaps.
Oh well!
You know that guy who practically gave me a "declaration of love"? Yeah, he went mental on me one time too many, so I sort of ended the friendship.
[basically the whole story]The first time, I had an update on FB saying "So I guess Färjestad sucked and lost? The updates with sadfaces in a row! ;D" (Färjestad is the local hockey team). And he started with asking me what I know about hockey, and since this was a funny-just-joking update, I stayed in character and said something like "It's a spoooooort. Played on ice. The ball is flat. KINDA?" but he wouldn't have it and made it into a serious and big deal about how I must think that everyone who doesn't win sucks and are awful, and that this and this and this. One of my sisters, one of my friends and my mum liked a few of my comments, and the friend commented that you don't have to over-analyse things. But he did. He'd rather over analyse than under analyse. Or whatever.
Then I got a humongous PM containing things like... I am stupid, of course all my friends and family members agrees with me, even though I am not right etc etc.
So I tried to explain everything to him, but he wouldn't have it. So I ended up ignoring him for about 4½ days (the fifth day, he came up to me and apologised).
This last time, we were talking at out thing, in the kitchen, at lunch time, about friends. And I said that honesty is the most important thing you have with your friends, and he said that loyalty is. All of a sudden, we got in to a discussion about our last... Mishap, where I said that my friends (and family) do not like my comments out of sympathy, it's because they agree. If he would've said something they'd agree with, they would like his comments. Me and my friends have a lot of different opinions, and we are not afraid to say so. But as usual, he wouldn't have it, told me that I don't get it. And stormed off. (at this point, I wrote to him on FB asking him to tell me what he meant, when he had calmed down) Then he came back, threw his backpack on the floor, rattled with cups and plates on the kitchen sink, turned around to get a tissue from the table (where I was sitting), and bumped in to the table so it moved. So I gave him this "what the hell are you doing?"-look, and he said "What??" and I calmly said "I think it's ridiculous that you are angry because we have different opinions". But again, I got the same ol' speech about how I don't get it, how I am stupid, yadda yadda. So I said "Obviously, both honesty and loyalty are important in a friendship". But since that wasn't what I said in the first place, he didn't care.
I left right after that (I'm off after lunch anyway). After a while, I got a phone call from my supervisor asking me how I was doing (she heard about the... Mishap) and I answered that I was okay, and if someone has a problem, it's him. She had talked to him too, telling him that it's not okay to slam doors and stuff(!!).
A few moments later, I got a PM from him on FB saying that I would probably be called in for a talk with the supervisor about "our thing", because he had just had his. And I replied that it isn't "our thing" it's his thing, cause he makes it into a thing when it isn't a thing. And so we got into another discussion, mostly containing stuff about how I am self-righteous, how I only say things around other people so that we can gang up on him, etc etc.
But I got to explain the whole honesty/loyalty thing. And then I simply said we should just stop. Stop our communication, since we misinterpret thing all the time, and it ends up with him angry (and maybe more?) and me feeling bad because I have no idea what even happened. And to round off the whole thing, he said that if you leave him, you leave him for good. (which I didn't response to), and the morning after he had sent me "I deserved a better ending", and he had blocked me or deactivated his FB or something.
He has talked to me a couple of times this last week, asking me about my cat and if they've caught the person who is killing cats around here (I said "He's an indoor cat" and "I have no idea").
You know my younger sister who is gayish? She wrote to me earlier this week and asked me if I knew where she could get a hold of The L Word, cause its soooooo good! I laughed a bit, and said that maybe it's good at first, but after watching it a few times... Not so much :P
But she is young and she is unenlightened, so... Okay. She checked the (two free) streaming sites I know of, but couldn't find anything, so I said that I have it, and that she could borrow it. So she got the first and most of the second season (I decided to take it bit by bit, since she has a tendency of losing things).
And speaking of television!
I've started watching the last season of The Big C. There's only four episodes and so you kind of get the hint of how it will end.
I usually cry to this show, but these episodes (two has aired so far)... I am really bawling my eyes out. Don't know if it is that it is really sad/heart warming or if it's the fact that I haven't had a good cry in quite a while, that there are many things I have bottled up and when I start crying, it all just comes pouring out. Or if it is a mix of both, perhaps.
Oh well!