Three sides to every story...
They say there are not two, but three sides to every story: Yours, Mine and The Truth.
But what is the truth? What is it? It is knowing all the facts, everything, from both sides...
So, it is really: Yours, Mine and Ours---which is really just Yours and Mine put together.
As we enter into the holiday season, we will be seeing family and friends and for some of us there have been some changes. A new president-elect, new phases in our relationships, new lines drawn the sand. We have lost people along the way or they are following their own path. And oddly, after an election that seemed to be about coming together--about hope for the future, I keep sensing these lines of YOURS, MINE, US, THEM, RIGHT, LEFT, RIGHT, WRONG, UP, DOWN, GOOD, EVIL, LOVE, HATE all around. Like battle lines are being drawn up--like it's a game, with winners and losers. Like there really are sides to choose from.
Like there isn't really a bigger picture in which everything is a part of everthing else.
The Truth is there is no Yours, there is no Mine...only Ours--but we are too small to see it. Everything just IS.
We make decisions every day, some of them life-changing...and we need to accept that our decisions impact others as well as ourselves. And when those decisions don't work out the way we want them to, in the end, it is ourselves we have to blame. But we point fingers and nash teeth and try to make MINE more important than YOURS...when it really is all a part of the same thing--just from a different point of view. And it is easier to blame than to understand or fix.
That is where cheesy proverbs come in! Yay for cheesy proverbs:
He who asks is a fool for five minutes. But he who does not ask remains a fool forever.
To really understand someone, you should try walking a mile in their shoes.
Be careful what you wish for, you might get it.
But what is the truth? What is it? It is knowing all the facts, everything, from both sides...
So, it is really: Yours, Mine and Ours---which is really just Yours and Mine put together.
As we enter into the holiday season, we will be seeing family and friends and for some of us there have been some changes. A new president-elect, new phases in our relationships, new lines drawn the sand. We have lost people along the way or they are following their own path. And oddly, after an election that seemed to be about coming together--about hope for the future, I keep sensing these lines of YOURS, MINE, US, THEM, RIGHT, LEFT, RIGHT, WRONG, UP, DOWN, GOOD, EVIL, LOVE, HATE all around. Like battle lines are being drawn up--like it's a game, with winners and losers. Like there really are sides to choose from.
Like there isn't really a bigger picture in which everything is a part of everthing else.
The Truth is there is no Yours, there is no Mine...only Ours--but we are too small to see it. Everything just IS.
We make decisions every day, some of them life-changing...and we need to accept that our decisions impact others as well as ourselves. And when those decisions don't work out the way we want them to, in the end, it is ourselves we have to blame. But we point fingers and nash teeth and try to make MINE more important than YOURS...when it really is all a part of the same thing--just from a different point of view. And it is easier to blame than to understand or fix.
That is where cheesy proverbs come in! Yay for cheesy proverbs:
He who asks is a fool for five minutes. But he who does not ask remains a fool forever.
To really understand someone, you should try walking a mile in their shoes.
Be careful what you wish for, you might get it.