IN WHICH I GET ON MY SOAPBOX AND POSSIBLY PREACH TO THE CHOIR
So. Some things are just bugging me.
i. I've known for a while that I am Childfree. I've told people that I'm 99,9% sure I don't want kids for as long as I can remember.
I'm not like some other CF'ers though. I understand why some CF'ers hate children. I don't: I LOVE children. I want my brother to have twenty children so I can be their favorite aunt who plays with them when they are younger and takes them out for their first pair of heels (whether they be boy or girl!) and first pub crawl when they're teens.
I just don't want them for myself, is that so hard to understand?
Why is it perfectly acceptable for someone my age to have a life's goal of being a housewife with four kids, but it's horrible and I'm selfish if my vision for the future is a successful career, perhaps a partner, living comfortably money-wise, and no kids? Why are you mature enough to decide to have children before your thirty but can't I take that final step to ensure I never have kids before I'm thirty? (I would like to get sterilized as soon as I have the money)
And, worse, why do people around me keep bingo'ing me? My mother keeps telling me "I'll change my mind" more and more frequently. My dad doesn't think I'm serious. I've got one CF friend, but she doesn't seem that set in her decision to never have kids. Well, at least she doesn't bingo me.
Sure, I might change my mind about having kids. I could also change my mind about fashion, and shave my head and walk around naked as of tomorrow. I could change my mind about my future, drop out of uni, and apply for a job as a bin woman. It COULD happen. Doesn't mean it will.
And even if I WOULD change my mind at any point (I know as well as anyone else nothing is set in stone, that's why I said I"m 99,9% sure and not a 100%), I know I don't want to put a child on this world. I would adopt. I just don't think it's acceptable to put children on a world that's vastly overpopulated and where there are thousands of children who need someone to take care of them. I have personally experienced that adopted family is family just as much as my blood relations are, and I don't think my genes are so superior they NEED to be passed on for the good of the world.
And yet, still, I'm not mature enough to make this decision.
ii. I am very shocked by the hatred of female sexuality.
I'm on this message board for modern, fashion-loving Dutch girls. And the hatred for their gender SCARES me.
Every girl who kisses someone just because they want to and not out of love is a slut.
Any girl who thinks sleeping with someone out of lust isn't too bad is a slut.
Girls need to save themselves and play hard to get to attract a BOIIIIIIFREND. Boys are naturally beings that will want to have sex with anyone with boobs in the vicinity, can't control themselves around the tender flowers that girls are, and will have absolutely no respect for you if you have sex with them before you are practically married.
What happened to the second wave of feminism? Excuse me, but I was under the impression that someone's sexuality was their own damn business as long as it's legal.
And I hate that guys are still seen as players and at worst only a bit of a bastard when they sleep around, while girls are automatically 'spoiled goods' if they have sex with more than one guy, especially if that guy isn't their boyfriend.
Seriously, to each their own, but why do the girls who are the opposite of promiscuous immediately have to judge the girls who like carefree fooling around as OMG WRONG AND MORALLY REPREHENSIBLE?
And that's how Sue Lotte.... C's it!
i. I've known for a while that I am Childfree. I've told people that I'm 99,9% sure I don't want kids for as long as I can remember.
I'm not like some other CF'ers though. I understand why some CF'ers hate children. I don't: I LOVE children. I want my brother to have twenty children so I can be their favorite aunt who plays with them when they are younger and takes them out for their first pair of heels (whether they be boy or girl!) and first pub crawl when they're teens.
I just don't want them for myself, is that so hard to understand?
Why is it perfectly acceptable for someone my age to have a life's goal of being a housewife with four kids, but it's horrible and I'm selfish if my vision for the future is a successful career, perhaps a partner, living comfortably money-wise, and no kids? Why are you mature enough to decide to have children before your thirty but can't I take that final step to ensure I never have kids before I'm thirty? (I would like to get sterilized as soon as I have the money)
And, worse, why do people around me keep bingo'ing me? My mother keeps telling me "I'll change my mind" more and more frequently. My dad doesn't think I'm serious. I've got one CF friend, but she doesn't seem that set in her decision to never have kids. Well, at least she doesn't bingo me.
Sure, I might change my mind about having kids. I could also change my mind about fashion, and shave my head and walk around naked as of tomorrow. I could change my mind about my future, drop out of uni, and apply for a job as a bin woman. It COULD happen. Doesn't mean it will.
And even if I WOULD change my mind at any point (I know as well as anyone else nothing is set in stone, that's why I said I"m 99,9% sure and not a 100%), I know I don't want to put a child on this world. I would adopt. I just don't think it's acceptable to put children on a world that's vastly overpopulated and where there are thousands of children who need someone to take care of them. I have personally experienced that adopted family is family just as much as my blood relations are, and I don't think my genes are so superior they NEED to be passed on for the good of the world.
And yet, still, I'm not mature enough to make this decision.
ii. I am very shocked by the hatred of female sexuality.
I'm on this message board for modern, fashion-loving Dutch girls. And the hatred for their gender SCARES me.
Every girl who kisses someone just because they want to and not out of love is a slut.
Any girl who thinks sleeping with someone out of lust isn't too bad is a slut.
Girls need to save themselves and play hard to get to attract a BOIIIIIIFREND. Boys are naturally beings that will want to have sex with anyone with boobs in the vicinity, can't control themselves around the tender flowers that girls are, and will have absolutely no respect for you if you have sex with them before you are practically married.
What happened to the second wave of feminism? Excuse me, but I was under the impression that someone's sexuality was their own damn business as long as it's legal.
And I hate that guys are still seen as players and at worst only a bit of a bastard when they sleep around, while girls are automatically 'spoiled goods' if they have sex with more than one guy, especially if that guy isn't their boyfriend.
Seriously, to each their own, but why do the girls who are the opposite of promiscuous immediately have to judge the girls who like carefree fooling around as OMG WRONG AND MORALLY REPREHENSIBLE?
And that's how Sue Lotte.... C's it!