d'Artagnon and I
Tomorrow, I face d'Artagnon again. And nearly a week later, I haven't figured out a "nice" way to address the chivalry problem.
I've known him for over 20 years. I could explain how I generally appreciate the courtesies offered to me as a woman (doors being opened, flirtation, etc.), when I am on a list field with sword in hand, the last thing I want is to be treated like a woman. But he will respond that he shows the same chivalry to everyone. And then I'm stuck with the choice of accepting his statement or proving to him that he is mistaken. But neither choice will yield the results I want.
The only way to "make" him and some others listen is to get better. Get good enough so that he can't risk giving up his arm in a gesture of chivalry. Enter the list with intent, push hard, and don't stop until someone is dead.
Wanting to get better shouldn't be this difficult.
I can fight against my body not cooperating. I can fight against my insane urge to apologize every time I kill someone. But this almost feels like sabotage by the very people who started me on this journey.
Frack! Over thinking again! Gotta stop that too!!! Managed to stab myself in the bum on Saturday during the sword workshop because I started overthinking the figure 8 motion.
I've known him for over 20 years. I could explain how I generally appreciate the courtesies offered to me as a woman (doors being opened, flirtation, etc.), when I am on a list field with sword in hand, the last thing I want is to be treated like a woman. But he will respond that he shows the same chivalry to everyone. And then I'm stuck with the choice of accepting his statement or proving to him that he is mistaken. But neither choice will yield the results I want.
The only way to "make" him and some others listen is to get better. Get good enough so that he can't risk giving up his arm in a gesture of chivalry. Enter the list with intent, push hard, and don't stop until someone is dead.
Wanting to get better shouldn't be this difficult.
I can fight against my body not cooperating. I can fight against my insane urge to apologize every time I kill someone. But this almost feels like sabotage by the very people who started me on this journey.
Frack! Over thinking again! Gotta stop that too!!! Managed to stab myself in the bum on Saturday during the sword workshop because I started overthinking the figure 8 motion.