Not a whole lot...
...going on really. This week promises to be more exciting than the previous three, though.
In moving forward to buy this house, we discovered two things: 1) not everybody at the bank knows what the hell they're talking about and 2) Chris doesn't HAVE a credit score. Yep, zero. Which is bad to the bank but I already knew he wasn't bringing any debt into the marriage so I was thrilled. Bank is the final say however, so we have to find a family member to co-borrow with me or else we don't get the house. His grandmother graciously agreed to put her faith in us and we have an appointment in three days to try again. If we don't get it, I feel like we weren't meant to buy a house yet and if we do, we're lucky and grateful. As far as the bank not knowing what's going on, well, they're just trying to be careful I think but it's hindering my living situation, durnit. Bank says "You can't borrow with someone you aren't related to" and FHA/HUD website says I can. Hmm. Chris and I aren't related and we could've borrowed together, why are Grandma and I any different? (And yes, she prefers to be called Grandma.) We'll be related in two and a half months anyway!
"The dress" has been shipped and is on the way. I'm so nervous. I don't want to shop for a dress and I really like this one but I'm conscious of the fact I'm not in the best shape so I may just have to look like poop in a dress. Blah. We'll see. I may wear a pant suit to my wedding and nobody better judge me. :P
I never thought that my mom would be that mom that says one thing and then does another with my wedding. She wants this and that and when I say "unnecessary" or "expensive" I get "Well, you only get to do this once." Grr. She says "Your wedding should be whatever you want it to be" and what she means is "Do this right cause you'll regret it like I do if you don't." Specially printed napkins? Gay. The direction cards with the invitations that have to perfectly match? Ultra gay. LUAU ENGAGEMENT PARTY TWO MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING!? Ultra, rainbow, flaming, rave kind of gay.
And I'm not kidding, the party is happening no matter what I say. When she asked me if Chris was excited (heh) and I told her he was nervous, she started bawling. *facepalm* My dad got all up-in-arms: "Well, it's easy and cheap to just go to the courthouse if you're not gonna appreciate what we're doing!" Helpful, dad, thanks. Why do I keep saying "simple" and people keep complicating things? I just want to get married! I don't want an "event"! It'll look nice and it'll be "just so" like they want so that people talk about it and say "Oh, what a pretty wedding, how nice!" but I just hope that Chris and I don't end up getting lost in mounds of crap we don't want and didn't ask for.
Sincerely,
Anna R.
In moving forward to buy this house, we discovered two things: 1) not everybody at the bank knows what the hell they're talking about and 2) Chris doesn't HAVE a credit score. Yep, zero. Which is bad to the bank but I already knew he wasn't bringing any debt into the marriage so I was thrilled. Bank is the final say however, so we have to find a family member to co-borrow with me or else we don't get the house. His grandmother graciously agreed to put her faith in us and we have an appointment in three days to try again. If we don't get it, I feel like we weren't meant to buy a house yet and if we do, we're lucky and grateful. As far as the bank not knowing what's going on, well, they're just trying to be careful I think but it's hindering my living situation, durnit. Bank says "You can't borrow with someone you aren't related to" and FHA/HUD website says I can. Hmm. Chris and I aren't related and we could've borrowed together, why are Grandma and I any different? (And yes, she prefers to be called Grandma.) We'll be related in two and a half months anyway!
"The dress" has been shipped and is on the way. I'm so nervous. I don't want to shop for a dress and I really like this one but I'm conscious of the fact I'm not in the best shape so I may just have to look like poop in a dress. Blah. We'll see. I may wear a pant suit to my wedding and nobody better judge me. :P
I never thought that my mom would be that mom that says one thing and then does another with my wedding. She wants this and that and when I say "unnecessary" or "expensive" I get "Well, you only get to do this once." Grr. She says "Your wedding should be whatever you want it to be" and what she means is "Do this right cause you'll regret it like I do if you don't." Specially printed napkins? Gay. The direction cards with the invitations that have to perfectly match? Ultra gay. LUAU ENGAGEMENT PARTY TWO MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING!? Ultra, rainbow, flaming, rave kind of gay.
And I'm not kidding, the party is happening no matter what I say. When she asked me if Chris was excited (heh) and I told her he was nervous, she started bawling. *facepalm* My dad got all up-in-arms: "Well, it's easy and cheap to just go to the courthouse if you're not gonna appreciate what we're doing!" Helpful, dad, thanks. Why do I keep saying "simple" and people keep complicating things? I just want to get married! I don't want an "event"! It'll look nice and it'll be "just so" like they want so that people talk about it and say "Oh, what a pretty wedding, how nice!" but I just hope that Chris and I don't end up getting lost in mounds of crap we don't want and didn't ask for.
Sincerely,
Anna R.