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Goodness, it's been a long time since I've posted-too long, I think. My thesis and my wedding have been keeping me very busy. Since the latter subject excites me more, of course, so I shall write about that.
When we commenced planning the wedding, I predicted it would be a relatively easy process. I told myself what every bride needs to believe in order to stay sane: my wedding will be different. And so far, it really hasn't been that bad! But yesterday marked six months until our wedding, and the flurry of activity has begun. So far we have secured a church, a reception site, a fabulous wedding party, a wedding ring for me, a pianist, and a cantor. We almost have a DJ, photographer, and transporation. Each detail requires days, sometimes weeks, of work. We have to scout recommendations and reviews, arrange appointments, interview vendors, and agonize over our decisions. Right now we're trying to choose a photographer. We've met several. They are all first-rate...and very expensive. So we're still in the market. If we don't find a nicely priced one within a week, we'll book one we've already met. The next step is finding my dress. I should point out that I've fallen in love with a dress I saw in Modern Bride magazine. It's so beautiful...and it costs $1,000. I intend to buy a less expensive dress within the next few weeks. The world of wedding planning is full of fables about brides who waited too long to buy their wedding dresses. As the story goes, the procrastinating bride ends up with no dress or no time to have the dress altered. But many of my friends have told me that 6 months should provide plenty of time to buy, receive, and alter the dress. My friend Alison was told by a curmudgeonly saleslady that her dress, ordered around 8 months before her wedding, absolutely could not arrive in time...and her wedding would be ruined. The dress arrived in 1 month and my friend looked quite nice in it. So I won't panic yet!
When I'm feeling particularly dreamy and idealistic, I fancy that most of the details don't really matter; I'm marrying a saintly and lovely man. Do we need a professionally edited video? Three limos instead of two? Embossed invitations? Save-the-date cards? No, we certainly don't need all these things. But, at the same time, I really want our guests to enjoy the day; I want them to feel appreciated. Since I can spend so little time with them during the wedding, I hope that we can show our gratitude by pouring care and energy and time and effort into every detail of the day. I want to provide transportation for everyone and give personalized wedding favors and take a picture with each guest. Not every dream can be fulfilled, but that's ok. Trusting that all this work will blossom into a really greaty day keeps us sane.
I really wish I could write about pre-Cana, but we haven't started the classes. The pastor of our church told us that we cannot start pre-Cana until 6 months before the wedding. We're going to start in November, and I'm very excited!
When we commenced planning the wedding, I predicted it would be a relatively easy process. I told myself what every bride needs to believe in order to stay sane: my wedding will be different. And so far, it really hasn't been that bad! But yesterday marked six months until our wedding, and the flurry of activity has begun. So far we have secured a church, a reception site, a fabulous wedding party, a wedding ring for me, a pianist, and a cantor. We almost have a DJ, photographer, and transporation. Each detail requires days, sometimes weeks, of work. We have to scout recommendations and reviews, arrange appointments, interview vendors, and agonize over our decisions. Right now we're trying to choose a photographer. We've met several. They are all first-rate...and very expensive. So we're still in the market. If we don't find a nicely priced one within a week, we'll book one we've already met. The next step is finding my dress. I should point out that I've fallen in love with a dress I saw in Modern Bride magazine. It's so beautiful...and it costs $1,000. I intend to buy a less expensive dress within the next few weeks. The world of wedding planning is full of fables about brides who waited too long to buy their wedding dresses. As the story goes, the procrastinating bride ends up with no dress or no time to have the dress altered. But many of my friends have told me that 6 months should provide plenty of time to buy, receive, and alter the dress. My friend Alison was told by a curmudgeonly saleslady that her dress, ordered around 8 months before her wedding, absolutely could not arrive in time...and her wedding would be ruined. The dress arrived in 1 month and my friend looked quite nice in it. So I won't panic yet!
When I'm feeling particularly dreamy and idealistic, I fancy that most of the details don't really matter; I'm marrying a saintly and lovely man. Do we need a professionally edited video? Three limos instead of two? Embossed invitations? Save-the-date cards? No, we certainly don't need all these things. But, at the same time, I really want our guests to enjoy the day; I want them to feel appreciated. Since I can spend so little time with them during the wedding, I hope that we can show our gratitude by pouring care and energy and time and effort into every detail of the day. I want to provide transportation for everyone and give personalized wedding favors and take a picture with each guest. Not every dream can be fulfilled, but that's ok. Trusting that all this work will blossom into a really greaty day keeps us sane.
I really wish I could write about pre-Cana, but we haven't started the classes. The pastor of our church told us that we cannot start pre-Cana until 6 months before the wedding. We're going to start in November, and I'm very excited!