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Oct 21, 2009 05:37

Premise 1: Discussing stuff, understanding what another person is saying, and agreeing is hard at the best of times.

Premise 2: It's even harder if it's an area where people are typically irrational about (lack of rational ways of handling information means it's harder to pass on and receive that information).

Premise 3: Romance is an area that people are typically irrational about.

Conclusion: If people have a hard time discussing and agreeing about stuff outside romance, they should expect lower agreement and coordination inside romance.

Attempt at applying the conclusion and being more specific about what this implies: Therefore, romantic couples should expect to coordinate on less, not more. It's entirely reasonable for them to: a) try to solve the problems by themselves without bringing the other person into it, and b) when there is a conflict, be prepared to solve the problem by just interacting less.

relationship theory, romance

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