I'm so tired
So I woke up at 8am to go to the Singletary retreat. When I got home I slept from 4pm-2am...I set my alarm to wake up in order to prepare for wild partying, but I must have just slept through it all. My lethargy is becoming alarming. The problem is that I now sleep through alarms
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2. Those subjects may be addressed in the humanities, but they rarely have much of an effect on the reader. There are exceptions where philosophy is concerned. Philosophy has driven men to socialism, to feminism, and other -isms that have changed how they live their lives. I think an exchange of "unnecessary" for "useless" would better explain my initial opinion, though, because I obviously find the humanities "useful" in that they are enjoyable (I agree that engaging in the humanities can help to deepen the human experience, but I contend that this deepening is not necessary to life). I'm not sure that the humanities help its patrons to think more critically about the world around them in any meaningful way, however. I think that the study of the humanities leads people to be able to write "critically" on literature or art, but I don't think that their study inherently leads to more than that. I steal that opinion from Stanley Fish, I should acknowledge.
3. What were you for Halloween? I was lazy. I sorry that you have become silent. But I think listening is better than talking on the whole. Talking is primarily useful only for the bits you get to listen to in response to your talking. There I go with "useful" again. I need a better work for what I mean.
4. But if it's about power and being god, why are women ok with not having real power in the world (by being sucessful in business, etc.) and settling for sexual power? I think it boils down to insecurity and wanting to be loved in an intimate way. Women want to be what men want them to be so that they will be loved *intensely* by one person (or a few more), instead of wanting to yield real power and be adored by far by many people. Women don't seem to want to be god in that sense.
5. Obviously that's part of it. But I don't think that was the real question. The question is why men want sex-symbol wives with no other laudable qualities. Why wouldn't you want the "best" possible person? Why wouldn't you want sexy and smart and successful? Why are men running away from women who are more than just sexy? Insecurity comes into play...but why doesn't "insanely sexy" lead men to feel insecure as well? Because that trait is evened out by "unintelligent" and "unsuccessful" and so the man can still feel like the more powerful member of the relationship? That's a possibility.
6. I think this is all changing very quickly. I agree that most people from our generation up have been brought up this way...but since the 1960's or so, it's becoming less of an issue. Especially now, with the array of books on making women orgasm and tv shows talking about female pleasure and desire, women are starting to acknowledge their own desires. And I don't think women are really taught to remain virgins as long as possible, because our society gasps at women who make it through their 20's as virgins (anyone really: men and women). Girls are told not to have sex as young adults, it is true, but then society backs off after the age of 18 or so and says that sex is the norm.
7. You make a very good point.
8. I think our idea is skewed as to what makes a good marriage. We think of good marriages as those where the husband and wife are best friends, so that is what we see when we look at what we consider as "good marriages." Some people may think that a good marriage occurs when a wife is, essentially, a slave to her husband, and would not pick the same marriages we pick as examples of "good marriages." I am not worried though. Marriage is only important if the couple has children. Otherwise, I see no point. I do like the idea of marriage though. I like the idea of family, really. The idea that there are always people to help you out if you're in trouble.
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