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A Glimpse of my Life with an Aspberger's (high functioning autistic) Hubby

Jul 23, 2010 10:11

Hubs came back last night after a 3-day business trip out of town. Keep in mind that I've been dealing with 3 kids (2 of them moderately/severely autistic). Please reassure me that I'm not crazy or an idiot.

( Hello, honey. Miss Me? )

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greeneyedtengu July 23 2010, 15:20:01 UTC

I'm not married, nor do I have children. But. I do come from a so-called 'broken' home. Sometimes, in order to do what is genuinely best for your kids, you have to do what is first best for you.

I'm not urging you to divorce. That's a long hard road that my mom thinks I don't remember, but I do. I'm saying that sometimes you need to do you things and not let him walk on you for the sake of family harmony. He has Asperger's though so I'm not sure how well he'd take to being called out on his shit...

I don't know... I want to help and lend my support, but I don't know how. I'm sorry hon. But on the bright side? You aren't an idiot... He's definitely being an asshole.

rigil_kent July 23 2010, 16:33:22 UTC

Yeah, I've gotta agree with greeneyetengu here - I'm still single and w/out any kids, but it really seems to me that he needs an attitude adjustment.

:(

luckycricket_1 July 23 2010, 16:50:01 UTC

Attitude adjustment is an understatement, hon.

The thing is, when we first got married, it wasn't this bad. It's become worse over the years. His parents are even worse than this. (My FIL once introduced me to his friends as "a housewife". >.< And Hubs and MIL didn't say anything about it at the time.)

luckycricket_1 July 23 2010, 16:48:30 UTC

Thanks, hon.

My family went through a lot of heartbreak for the opposite reason. Mum stayed w/Dad even though she was obviously unhappy. So we kids suffered. Leaving is easier said than done, esp. since I haven't had a teaching job in nearly 10 years and I have to depend on him financially.

Yeah, he reacts by denying he's being an asshole, then points out that he also takes care of the kids. He does care about them, but he doesn't have to worry about housekeeping, entertaining them M-F, etc.

greeneyedtengu July 23 2010, 17:34:49 UTC

See.... It takes a lot more to take care of your family and kids than just paying for them or being there on the weekend... I don't dispute that he cares for them, but he needs to take care of mom too so she can be in a better frame of mind. Partnership, yes?

I don't know if I'm making sense... :-/

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