handling the questions
My divorce is still in the bloody mess that is the middle of the court dates. I've been stewing over this one piece a bit, and finally am posting it here after talking to my 10 yr old.
It seems that the counsellor who I took the kids to, who ended up trying to testify against me (though she didn't see the kids enough to truly have any real opinion), was fixated on ONE thing only, my transition. She latched onto one idea my 10 yr old offered for how she might explain her mother's absence, which was, "I'll just tell them my Mom died and I live with my Papa." The therapist decided on her own that I must have given this idea to my daughter, when this is NOT the case.
Of course I had to refute this on the stand!
I have always taken the attitude that stealth of any sort is not an option for me until such time as my children are grown and moved out, if even then.
I've always told my children that if anyone asks about where their mom is, they are free to tell people that I am their mom, and to send them to me for any and all questions. I'd prefer that I be the one answering the questions, since I know how to convey more information about my transition than could be explained by a child.
So...my question is this...how do YOU, the guys who are parents, handle these types of situations??
Lucas
It seems that the counsellor who I took the kids to, who ended up trying to testify against me (though she didn't see the kids enough to truly have any real opinion), was fixated on ONE thing only, my transition. She latched onto one idea my 10 yr old offered for how she might explain her mother's absence, which was, "I'll just tell them my Mom died and I live with my Papa." The therapist decided on her own that I must have given this idea to my daughter, when this is NOT the case.
Of course I had to refute this on the stand!
I have always taken the attitude that stealth of any sort is not an option for me until such time as my children are grown and moved out, if even then.
I've always told my children that if anyone asks about where their mom is, they are free to tell people that I am their mom, and to send them to me for any and all questions. I'd prefer that I be the one answering the questions, since I know how to convey more information about my transition than could be explained by a child.
So...my question is this...how do YOU, the guys who are parents, handle these types of situations??
Lucas