I wanna be daylight in your eyes
So here's a question for all of you out there in the world...how do you know when you've found the one...as in the one you want to spend forever with? How do you know you can trust yourself...and them? How do you keep from getting hurt...how do you make sure you don't invest wrongly? Unrelated....How do you stop loving someone who's forgotten
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You know you have found the one, when it honestly feels right in your heart. And all of this may sound corny, but from experience it is what I have felt. When you look into your future, whatever it may be, and you see yourself with that person. Not just six months from now, but a year, ten years, fifty years. When you get honestly concerned when you don't hear from the person and they don't call you and one thought pops in your head. Not "I think she/he is cheating on me" or "She/he probably left their phone at home by accident" but instead "Oh my goodness, she/he could be dead, what am I supposed to do?" You know you have found the one when a year down the road you still get excited to get a phone call or text message. When it means the world to you when they call at midnight as you drift off to sleep to say goodnight.
2) How do you know you can trust yourself... and them?
If you can't trust yourself then you shouldn't be in a relationship. Trust is a form of control in a way. If you trust yourself, your opinions, ideas, actions, and words then in a way you are able to control yourself. You need to trust not only I guess you brain, but your heart. You need to trust that you are going in the right direction FOR YOU. How do you trust another person? It takes time as you know, it doesn't happen overnight. You learn to trust sometimes based on their actions and behaviors. If she/he runs around, acts crazy, is like a rebel in a way and doesn't even settle down for one minute, she/he might be difficult to trust. I'm not telling you to judge a book by it's cover either. You have to look not only into their heart and their feelings but yours as well. You have to be comfortable with them where you know deep inside of you that they aren't going behind your back. Sometimes you never fully know if you can trust a person. Sometimes you learn to trust them and then they break that trust. Trust is something that over time builds by being with someone. But when you trust yourself and you trust the person you are with, you will know.
3) How do you keep from getting hurt.. how do you make sure you don't invest wrongly?
You can never correctly prevent yourself from getting hurt in a relationship. In high school, I dated so many different people, and every single time, I would break up with them before they had the chance to hurt me. I ended up hurting them but at the time, I didn't care because it meant they didn't get to destroy my heart. You can also not put all of your feelings, emotions, love, trust, and energy into the relationship and that could also prevent you from getting hurt. But it also prevents you from not trusting yourself and the other person. Every person gets hurt at some point or another in life. I wish I could say wrap yourself in bubble wrap and duct tape and everything will be ok, but life doesn't work like that. As for the question how do you make sure you don't invest wrongly? Sometimes you think you are doing the right thing for yourself and the other person but it doesn't work out. But within the first month or two of being with she/he and things are really crappy it's probably not a good investment. I'm a fixer, I like to fix people and relationships, but you have to remember you can't fix everything. Most of all, you can't change a person, every person has their own spirit and you can try but a person won't change for real unless they truly want to.
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