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So, we're going through a rough patch. It hasn't anything to do with us personally, we're more in love now than ever. We spent a wonderful three weeks together back in August, and got to see each other for a very short visit in early November. We were hoping we could see each other before I started school again, and had formulated plans to meet up on the 9th, even going so far as to book our flights. However, just today we had to cancel those plans.
Unfortunately, he's recently been stricken with some family tragedy. His mother was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer back in late October, and things were going fairly smooth, about as smooth as cancer treatment can go I suppose, when she was suddenly rushed to the hospital because of her inability to breathe or swallow with the tumors in her throat. She is currently in the ICU being kept sedated while they administer radiation.
We just found out today that this Tuesday they're taking her breathing tube out to see if she can breathe on her own, and the tube cannot be re-inserted, so it is literally a life or death situation.
I have a lot of mixed emotions. Of course I'm disappointed we can't see each other, and probably won't until mid-March. But I've assured him that I am capable of waiting as long as it takes, and that being there for his mother is the most important thing. I am also having this sort of grieving of my own that is new for me, where I have never even met this woman but I find myself sobbing at the thought of her being gone, maybe because I know how painful it's going to be for him, and how I can't be there to comfort him. He's been sleeping on the floor in the ICU for a couple days now because he refuses to leaver her side. He told me today that she can hear them, and gives small reactions when asked. He said he told her she needs to get better so she can make dinner for Chinese New Year, and I just found myself crying uncontrollably.
I guess I'm just looking for any input. Suggestions on how to handle it, how to comfort him from far away, and how to comfort myself without taking any of the attention away from him (since the last thing I want to do is burden him with my own emotions). Encouragement, insight, anything is helpful. Have any of you experience a similar predicament?
So, we're going through a rough patch. It hasn't anything to do with us personally, we're more in love now than ever. We spent a wonderful three weeks together back in August, and got to see each other for a very short visit in early November. We were hoping we could see each other before I started school again, and had formulated plans to meet up on the 9th, even going so far as to book our flights. However, just today we had to cancel those plans.
Unfortunately, he's recently been stricken with some family tragedy. His mother was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer back in late October, and things were going fairly smooth, about as smooth as cancer treatment can go I suppose, when she was suddenly rushed to the hospital because of her inability to breathe or swallow with the tumors in her throat. She is currently in the ICU being kept sedated while they administer radiation.
We just found out today that this Tuesday they're taking her breathing tube out to see if she can breathe on her own, and the tube cannot be re-inserted, so it is literally a life or death situation.
I have a lot of mixed emotions. Of course I'm disappointed we can't see each other, and probably won't until mid-March. But I've assured him that I am capable of waiting as long as it takes, and that being there for his mother is the most important thing. I am also having this sort of grieving of my own that is new for me, where I have never even met this woman but I find myself sobbing at the thought of her being gone, maybe because I know how painful it's going to be for him, and how I can't be there to comfort him. He's been sleeping on the floor in the ICU for a couple days now because he refuses to leaver her side. He told me today that she can hear them, and gives small reactions when asked. He said he told her she needs to get better so she can make dinner for Chinese New Year, and I just found myself crying uncontrollably.
I guess I'm just looking for any input. Suggestions on how to handle it, how to comfort him from far away, and how to comfort myself without taking any of the attention away from him (since the last thing I want to do is burden him with my own emotions). Encouragement, insight, anything is helpful. Have any of you experience a similar predicament?