No, I want your honest opinion. I don't want people walking on eggshells around me, afraid to tell me how it is. Cos if I am at fault and can't see it, I want to know and I want to put it right. I mean.. I'm sure my nagging gets really old... but I feel like if I don't then nothing will change. But then nothing is changing anyway! And I am the queen of nagging. Seriously, I feel like we're an old married couple already and I'm 23 and he's 25.
You've just confirmed everything I've been thinking... but when I talk to him, he makes me feel like I'm expecting too much from him. And I start to doubt whether I'm right for feeling this way. He doesn't see anything wrong in what he's doing. Infact he just says that I'm being negative, when I'm being realistic. His last few interviews.. he's got right the way through the interview process, even to the point of being given the job. Then told he doesn't have it. It keeps happening. And everytime he has an interview, he stops applying for other jobs. And I tell him he should keep looking elsewhere, too and I'm apparently being negative. He's even told me my negativity is the reason why he hasn't been getting these jobs! I'm just being real... I see a pattern and I'm trying to help him fix it. Like he's been applying for jobs without a cover letter... just sending his resume out on monster.com to various companies, then wonders why he doesn't get any response! I didn't realise he was doing that, but as soon as I did.. I offered to help him put a cover letter together.. I even offered to do it all and apply for jobs for him and he could follow up with the ones he wanted to do, and he wasn't interested. Am I just enabling him to continue living this way by doing that? Is he just going to stay at his parents, and play games while his girlfriend applies for jobs for him that he has no interest in doing? I've stopped doing that now.. I've just kinda given up cos I've realised he will do what he wants to do, and if I question it.. I'm just being negative in his eyes. Every time.
You've just confirmed everything I've been thinking... but when I talk to him, he makes me feel like I'm expecting too much from him. And I start to doubt whether I'm right for feeling this way. He doesn't see anything wrong in what he's doing. Infact he just says that I'm being negative, when I'm being realistic. His last few interviews.. he's got right the way through the interview process, even to the point of being given the job. Then told he doesn't have it. It keeps happening. And everytime he has an interview, he stops applying for other jobs. And I tell him he should keep looking elsewhere, too and I'm apparently being negative. He's even told me my negativity is the reason why he hasn't been getting these jobs! I'm just being real... I see a pattern and I'm trying to help him fix it. Like he's been applying for jobs without a cover letter... just sending his resume out on monster.com to various companies, then wonders why he doesn't get any response! I didn't realise he was doing that, but as soon as I did.. I offered to help him put a cover letter together.. I even offered to do it all and apply for jobs for him and he could follow up with the ones he wanted to do, and he wasn't interested. Am I just enabling him to continue living this way by doing that? Is he just going to stay at his parents, and play games while his girlfriend applies for jobs for him that he has no interest in doing? I've stopped doing that now.. I've just kinda given up cos I've realised he will do what he wants to do, and if I question it.. I'm just being negative in his eyes. Every time.
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