You'd imagine that a guy has been sticking out a super long distance relationship for almost a year now because he really does genuinely love/care about her, right
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My advice would be to try to stop thinking about it in terms of guys vs. girls, and it might not seem so confusing. In the end, people are people. Some people have strung others along. Then again, I don't think most people would do that. What would there be for him to gain from it? Just think, if he puts aside time especially to talk to you from far away, and he's spending his time and money to come see you, that's a pretty good indication he likes you and wants to be with you! :p
If you're still feeling uncertain after giving it some thought, try talking to him about it in a way that isn't accusatory. After all, communication is the most important aspect of any relationship, but especially long-distance ones. Words are often all we've got, so we need to make them count.
Best of luck to you, and I hope you enjoy your visit! :)
Ok, I'm not going to be comforting at all, so bear with me. :( My ex boyfriend and I were long distance and it was fine for a while. Then he went off to uni and the availability of so much vagina got the better of him. He was still in a relationship with me 5000 miles away, which sounds great when you're chatting up a cutie at the bar. "Aww you're in a long distance relationship that must be so hard you're so braaaave and sweeeeeeet!" *eyelash flutter* Next thing I knew he's sleeping with a girl he met in his dorms. Basically he strung me along because it sounds so noble and sweet to be in a long distance relationship and made him look good when he bragged about it, but he couldn't actually commit to not sleeping with other people, which was a stipulation of the contract so to speak. I hope that's not your situation, but it does happen. :/
But what if my SO "hinted" at wanting to visit my hometown and meet my family over Thanksgiving? That's gotta indicate a pretty high level of seriousness towards me, right?
As others have said... try not to do the ol' gender stereotyping.
That said, yes. There are people who, while in their right mind, will string an SO along with distance. Why? Because some people are jerks. My ex is one such person. And I'm friends with a guy who married a girl who was LD to him (He's in Canada, she's in the US) ... two months after their marriage, she started sleeping with one of his best friends who lived close to her. When my friend found out--the girl continued to string him along until eventually my friend couldn't take it anymore and divorced her.
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If you're still feeling uncertain after giving it some thought, try talking to him about it in a way that isn't accusatory. After all, communication is the most important aspect of any relationship, but especially long-distance ones. Words are often all we've got, so we need to make them count.
Best of luck to you, and I hope you enjoy your visit! :)
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To OP: Try to stop gender stereotyping! As commenter above me said, people are people :).
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My ex boyfriend and I were long distance and it was fine for a while. Then he went off to uni and the availability of so much vagina got the better of him. He was still in a relationship with me 5000 miles away, which sounds great when you're chatting up a cutie at the bar. "Aww you're in a long distance relationship that must be so hard you're so braaaave and sweeeeeeet!" *eyelash flutter* Next thing I knew he's sleeping with a girl he met in his dorms. Basically he strung me along because it sounds so noble and sweet to be in a long distance relationship and made him look good when he bragged about it, but he couldn't actually commit to not sleeping with other people, which was a stipulation of the contract so to speak. I hope that's not your situation, but it does happen. :/
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That's gotta indicate a pretty high level of seriousness towards me, right?
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That said, yes. There are people who, while in their right mind, will string an SO along with distance. Why? Because some people are jerks. My ex is one such person. And I'm friends with a guy who married a girl who was LD to him (He's in Canada, she's in the US) ... two months after their marriage, she started sleeping with one of his best friends who lived close to her. When my friend found out--the girl continued to string him along until eventually my friend couldn't take it anymore and divorced her.
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