From the comments of a
none-too-enlightening article on porn:
and the reason most men are uncomfortable talking to their women about their deepest darkest porn fantasies is that those fantasies are very dark and very deep.
Now this is a man who has never seen an anonymous kink meme. Based on my informal research, combining watersports, daddykink, and dub-con/non-con would make me the hero of
st_xi_kink_meme. My biggest problem would be figuring out whether the Chulu folks or some segment of the K/S/M crowd would want it more.
Well, maybe there'd need to be tentacles to really push me into BNF status. Like Kirk gets captured by tentacled aliens who take turns raping him until he's rescued by Spock and/or McCoy. And naturally Daddy/ies kiss it all better. I'm still not sure where the pissplay would come into it, but there are probably at least three versions of this fic already on the internet.
Which is good, because I've just noticed that
st_xi_kink_meme has no fills for Kirk/McCoy/Spock!Prime. Something must be done about this.
So, I guess this would be why we don't tell dudes about fandom.