Won't mean a thing to anyone but me

[lovelark]

How can anyone sey what love is? What trust is or what pain is? My pain is not your pain. My joy is not your joy. These words don't mean anything. They're vauge expressions at the very best. Words always fail

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[mrwhippymug]

It sounds like you're hitting on some very interesting points. We can't ever truly know what anyone else is thinking or feeling. That's why trust is so important in relationships. You have to trust the other person to be true to what they're saying and feeling. You have to trust them to interpret their own feelings, and act accordingly. I think in the general sense though, we can get a pretty good idea of what pain or love or joy is. Well, love is a little harder, but the other two we can work with. We all have similar experiences with pain and joy. If you drop something very heavy on your toe, that's a pretty universal feeling for pain, because it's something that everyone can relate to. If you say that you're best friend has betrayed your trust, people can get a sense for the pain you're in because most people have experienced that and can draw on the feelings those memories elicit. Joy is the same way. Opening presents on Christmas Day is an instance that most people can relate to. Spending time with friends who you haven't seen for a while is another situation that most people have had the chance to experience. They can draw on the feelings from memories of past experiences, and can get a feel for what you're feeling. Even though no one can know the exact dimensions of your feeling, I think it's possible to get a pretty good idea of how someone is feeling.

Love is something that you can't describe to someone else, because it's much different for different people. We can dance around the idea with witty similes and metaphors, but nothing can get at the meat of it, because it's unexplainable. But if you're in a relationship - be it friend, family, or lover - that feeling of love is felt by both. It doesn't need to be explained, because love is something that is shown. Proven is definitely the wrong word to be used, because it makes it sound like a chore, something that's required. Love is voluntary. If love is true, than you can see it in how the other person acts. How they make time for you, are there to talk with you, light up like a light whenever you're around, get excited to see you when they haven't seen you in a while. Even subtle things like they way they look at you, or the way they touch you. All those things pull together to form their expression of their love for you. So love is something that's shown - not proven - of the person's own volition, without any prompting. It's giving everything without expecting to get back. And the best part about it is, the more you see it shown to you, the more you want to show it back. The cycle just keeps growing, it's contagious. I'm sorry, I'm really starting to ramble...but that's my opinion. I can't wait to see you tomorrow night. Good luck!
- with love, Nick

[lovelark]

I love how everyone places the most importance on love. I quite agree with that.

I know what you're saying. I'm just feeling that lately humans are severely limited in daily communication. I think we don't understand eachother well enough. No one has enough empathy.

But you're right, a sense of pain is universal, if degrees are often lost.