Descent

[culoslap]

She has a boyfriend. I'm more confused at this point. As I said I would, I'm giving an update. After the acrimonious introduction of my last post, I'm expecting some contempt.

Comments

[lookfar]

I think you've got the right course; she's got a boyfriend or she wants you to think so (can't see any reason she should take that route, but people do), and you should show friendly respect for that. Maybe someday you'll be that guy that acted so right with her at the gym and you'll get to try again.

[culoslap]

I would to like to hope that someday she'll reach out to me. For now I'm harboring no expectations. When her and I chat, I'll smile a lot and be myself knowing there is no longer the pressure to dance.

[tacit]

"What do you think my next course of action should be?"

Look for a partner who's clearly interested and available.

Her having a boyfriend doesn't necessarily mean she's not--she might be polyamorous--but if she were interested in you, I reckon it would be clear.

[csandiegooo]

You definitely have the right idea--just let come what may and respect whatever she has going on.
Building a friendship with someone can be just as exciting and rewarding--and as others have said, maybe someday can blossom into something else. But at this time, definitely don't make any moves with the idea that the boyfriend thing was a cover-up.
Don't question whether her status really is available or taken, if you enjoy her company, then enjoy it for what it is :)

[kekekekekekeke]

et al?

[culoslap]

From what I remember, et al. is a short for et alteri which is Latin for "and other things."