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this isn't so much about a relationship problem as it is about a friendship problem, so i hope i'm still able to ask for advice here. i could really use the help.
this guy and i have been friends for about two years, almost three, and i met him through one of his friends that i was seeing at the time. our friendship has been very tight, and we've been able to talk to each other about anything and i've always been able to go to him for support and advice. we usually talk in some form at least every day (usually by facebook chat) either to have conversations or something as simple as "hey check out this link/picture/video."
we never hung out that much, though. between school, a job, hobbies, and a girlfriend, he's very difficult to see in person. usually if we make plans to hang out and he can't see them though, he'll tell me or ask if we can push it back to a different date. and this annoys me, but i get that he has stuff to do. on a couple occasions i haven't heard back from him at all regarding plans, but we've always been able to bounce back, and maybe talk about what happened.
a little over two weeks ago i was planning to give him a hand-drawn card and some muffins for his birthday. this of course requires me to see him in person to give them to him. so we made plans, which he pushed back because he had to go take care of his ailing grandpa. midnight of the day we rescheduled to i asked if we were still on for hanging out. to which i didn't receive a reply. this might not have been a problem if it hadn't become a near-expected thing of him to do, and i was frustrated. so i sent him a derisive message saying "i wonder how anyone plans anything with you ever" and closed the chat, waiting for a reply.
two weeks later, i'm still waiting. a few days ago i sent him another message saying "i still have your card. if you wanted it." and i still have yet to hear back.
i have no idea what's going on. i had stopped talking to him after that first message because i was angry and expecting an explanation for what had happened with our plans, but now he's not talking to me? i know he's seen my messages and i know he's on facebook. but i have no idea why he wouldn't want to talk to me. as far as i know, he's the one that fucked up, not me. i was trying to do something nice for his birthday, so i would think the least thing he could do is write back.
i'm moving six hours away in a little over a week, and i would hate to end this way. at this point i'm so frustrated and angry, i'm planning on throwing his card away, and i may or may not leave him a scalding message before i move. i'm just so done at this point. i just wanted an explanation, and instead i got this. i have no idea what to do. i thought we were closer than this.
this guy and i have been friends for about two years, almost three, and i met him through one of his friends that i was seeing at the time. our friendship has been very tight, and we've been able to talk to each other about anything and i've always been able to go to him for support and advice. we usually talk in some form at least every day (usually by facebook chat) either to have conversations or something as simple as "hey check out this link/picture/video."
we never hung out that much, though. between school, a job, hobbies, and a girlfriend, he's very difficult to see in person. usually if we make plans to hang out and he can't see them though, he'll tell me or ask if we can push it back to a different date. and this annoys me, but i get that he has stuff to do. on a couple occasions i haven't heard back from him at all regarding plans, but we've always been able to bounce back, and maybe talk about what happened.
a little over two weeks ago i was planning to give him a hand-drawn card and some muffins for his birthday. this of course requires me to see him in person to give them to him. so we made plans, which he pushed back because he had to go take care of his ailing grandpa. midnight of the day we rescheduled to i asked if we were still on for hanging out. to which i didn't receive a reply. this might not have been a problem if it hadn't become a near-expected thing of him to do, and i was frustrated. so i sent him a derisive message saying "i wonder how anyone plans anything with you ever" and closed the chat, waiting for a reply.
two weeks later, i'm still waiting. a few days ago i sent him another message saying "i still have your card. if you wanted it." and i still have yet to hear back.
i have no idea what's going on. i had stopped talking to him after that first message because i was angry and expecting an explanation for what had happened with our plans, but now he's not talking to me? i know he's seen my messages and i know he's on facebook. but i have no idea why he wouldn't want to talk to me. as far as i know, he's the one that fucked up, not me. i was trying to do something nice for his birthday, so i would think the least thing he could do is write back.
i'm moving six hours away in a little over a week, and i would hate to end this way. at this point i'm so frustrated and angry, i'm planning on throwing his card away, and i may or may not leave him a scalding message before i move. i'm just so done at this point. i just wanted an explanation, and instead i got this. i have no idea what to do. i thought we were closer than this.