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A bit of help needed. Thank you all so much. <3
I have been having problems with my SO for about a month. It has reached a climax in the last few days.
I am 23, and they are 26, we have been dating for about 3 years. We have been much in love since the first day we've met, about 5 years ago.
This is what's been up.
( More under the cut <3 )
I am 23, and they are 26, we have been dating for about 3 years. We have been much in love since the first day we've met, about 5 years ago.
This is what's been up.
( More under the cut <3 )
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seeking
As for your depression, I have the absolute same. Depression, anxiety, & SAD. I know money is an issue for you right now, but I recently bought a SAD lamp & it has drastically improved my mood. Knowing that you're struggling right now & knowing what you need is half the battle. Are there any social outings you can get out to? A book club? A sport? Playing games with friends? I'm struggling too, but getting myself out always helps me.
If you need a listening ear, you can message me through LJ.
Follow your heart. Ask yourself if you're getting out of the relationship what YOU need, that will tell you ultimately what to do. Wishing you the best.
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tia_junan
Why not start filling some time by looking for a new job? Really put some effort into this and concentrate. As for Sam - wait until you get a call. Don't call or text - or even respond to texts. There may still be some love for you on Sam's part but I also think that you may be taken for granted. It may be important for you to feel as though Sam loves you - but know this to be true - it is much much more important that you love yourself. Begin to treat yourself with a little more respect and the payback will definitely be worthwhile.
Everyone has talents they can market - think about yours and then go for it! Best of luck to you. Now Smile!
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wormslearntofly
I think you need to actually meet up with this person to talk to them about it, so they can't hang up on you and you can properly read them. Then decide what to about it.
And I'm sorry about everything else in your life, it's horrible when everything seems to go wrong at the same time. But things will only get better.
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seeking
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re_vised
If he knows you're depressed and have other big issues right now, yet still berates you, I'd call that emotional abuse, too. He isn't worth your time and I would tell him so. He is being extremely selfish and manipulative by not letting you discuss your week, not returning your calls, not being supportive and honestly not seeming to give a damn about you from his actions.
I think it's best if you left him.
Also, fill your extra time hanging out in the library at school. (Perhaps searching/applying for jobs on the internet?) Try to find a food bank in your area to get SOMETHING to eat in your house. Many times churches will have food available. (And I don't think you have to show proof of income or anything.)
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lostenergy
for now, maybe you can channel your energy on other things? looking for a job, etc. i see that you love him and he loves you maybe, but i think that at a low point he should have been a support system. not a stressor. maybe you both need to cool down for a bit. think it really thoroughly. i think that you've began to perceive that it's all your fault but it's obviously not. if i was in your shoes maybe i'd take the time he's taking to chill to also think it through. five years is a long time----and if he's not bothered by yor troubles and even adds to the toxicity at this point in yor relationship... well, think about that.
i really hope your personal troubles is what you can settle first :)
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