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firstly this involves a same sex relationship between two women so please no bashing, thats just hateful and clearly not what this helpful community is about!

on with the problem...
i have been with my girlfriend for just over a year and half now and up until recently it has been wonderful, she pushed me to be a better person and had faith in me and my work (creative related currently an MA student) when i thought no one did. we recently moved in together (sept '11) and while when i asked he back in April last year it was exciting for the both of us we had a trial time i suppose over summer when i stayed with her family (as i live a hundred miles away and wanted to continue to work and study at the same Uni) and we seemed to grow apart. there was less sex (her 9 year old sister had the tendancy to pop in unannounced) and eventually less affection from her and less cuddling. more and more of what i do pisses her off and i have changed. obviously its hard to see it yourself when people say you change but i believe her that i have, i know i can be selfish and easy to temper, where perhaps previously i was very laidback and easy going things just get on top of me and i let the things like less affection and not turning over for a goodnight kiss get to me and then kept it to myself before boiling over and obviously that made it worse! no we have been livign together for a number of months things have gone from bad to worse, she thinks perhaps i was not ready for such a commitment as i still, in some ways, live like a student. has my 'adjustment' to this new state of living gone on for long enough.....?

patience is running out and i would love some advice on how to perhaps talk calmly about things or, stop myself being a massive grump the whole time, any advice or related stories would be lovely.

sorry if this hasnt made much sense, a bit of a ramble and a rant thanks in advance.