Personally, I don't think 8 months is too soon. My partner and I have been dating since the end of August, and we basically moved in together in the beginning of January. We realized we were spending 5 out of 7 nights together anyway, so we just took the plunge. Things are great. :) That being said, I would still caution you to be careful. Having fun together and having great chemistry is a good thing, but keep in mind that you're probably still in the puppy love stage of this relationship. You WILL have complaints, and how you two deal with them when they surface will determine whether or not you're fit to move in together. You don't even have to have a "real" fight, but all healthy relationships involve disagreements and compromises.
Also, changing schools (and states) to be with your SO can also be really tough. If you break up, then you've officially changed your life direction FOR HIM. Keep that in mind.
Very valid points and thank you for your input. There definitely are things about him that drive me crazy, and me him, and we do fight. When we were together though, it really did just feel right. Of course, it is still early in the relationship and anything can happen. As far as school goes, I just go to community college so it's not a huuuuge adjustment, but it is an adjustment nonetheless which I will definitely take into consideration when the time comes to make a definite decision. Thanks again :)
I think this is pretty risky stuff. It's very easy to think you know someone very well when you're online or doing long distance, but you don't really know the real them until it's up close and personal for a good deal of time. It sounds like moving in with someone you've only just started a long term relationship with and met once in person is WAY too fast. Though emotions are running high and it seems convenient, don't forget to use your head in this situation. It'd be a lot less convenient to deal with a break up in a place where you don't have your own home or social network. In my opinion, if you want to be closer- maybe look into getting your own place near him. Independence is sexy, and keeps us healthier in our relationships.
I definitely understand what you're saying. Like I said though, we're going to see each other several more times for several weeks before any of this happens. I do love the idea of maybe getting my own place near him, though, that's a really good idea and then I won't be trapped if something happens. Thanks so much for your input, I really appreciate it! :)
It's very easy to think you know someone very well when you're online or doing long distance, but you don't really know the real them until it's up close and personal for a good deal of time. It sounds like moving in with someone you've only just started a long term relationship with and met once in person is WAY too fast.I am living right now with a partner I met online. She and I spent a good bit of time talking to one another, when I was in Atlanta and she lived in Oregon. She flew out to visit me, spent a week, and a short time later I packed up and moved out to Portland. We've been together for six years now
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He's at ft Gordon then. Im one too but a dif language. I'm 21 and a sailor and my husband is 19 and in the army. Our bdays are next month. Same jobs. We come from a school where every one gets married. Lol. I know 8 couples personally in the year I've been here. So be careful lol.
That being said your friends will all be military and their spouses. It might suck to not know anyone. And the job can be demanding. So make sure you can leave if you want to. Other than that I can't really warn you lol.
my first response would be... taking the next step in your relationship, if you are serious and as happy as you say is a wonderful thing, but in warning make sure you are both prepared financially and perhaps have some sort of trial period? i was with my partner for 10 months before asking them to move in with me and then in wasn't until 5 months later we finally did. the biggest issue (aside from our own relationship problems) has been the financial side, me being at uni ('college' i suppose) has put a strain on it because i am unable to earn as much and recently things have been very tough (threat of losing home). But, if when it gets down to it the both of you share the finances equally - i would say thats the best thing to keep a balance in the relationship- and have experienced each other living in the same place for long periods it should by all means work
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Things really do move faster across the big pond, eh.
I've been with my girl for about two years now, and whenever we talked about moving in together it was in jest. we live a 20 minute drive away from each other and hang around quite ofte, no problem. but moving in together? geez, for me, that's a huge step.
generally, the deal with long-distance is you are not really used to spending a lot of consecutive days together. long distance is rather based on holiday-romance than everyday life relationship. and if things turn out badly, you're away from friends and family, basically alone.
Don't mean to scare you though, doing what's right and doing what feels right are two very different things you can't always tell apart so easily.
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Also, changing schools (and states) to be with your SO can also be really tough. If you break up, then you've officially changed your life direction FOR HIM. Keep that in mind.
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That being said your friends will all be military and their spouses. It might suck to not know anyone. And the job can be demanding. So make sure you can leave if you want to. Other than that I can't really warn you lol.
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I've been with my girl for about two years now, and whenever we talked about moving in together it was in jest. we live a 20 minute drive away from each other and hang around quite ofte, no problem. but moving in together? geez, for me, that's a huge step.
generally, the deal with long-distance is you are not really used to spending a lot of consecutive days together. long distance is rather based on holiday-romance than everyday life relationship. and if things turn out badly, you're away from friends and family, basically alone.
Don't mean to scare you though, doing what's right and doing what feels right are two very different things you can't always tell apart so easily.
good luck (=
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