Whenever I practice around Mimu...

[love_rainbow]

On the weekends sometimes we like to practice music, Mimu and I.
Mimu took up violin in May (now technically last May; Happy New Year everyone!) and I have been playing flute for about a year and a half now

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[love_rainbow]

actually, as of yesterday, I have discovered that Mimu has the same problem as your mom (and my mom) too. Like, he is always telling me to clean up and stuff, but I realised that actually I'm the one who is organized. My knitting is all put away in boxes in the living room. The boxes take up some space, but not much and at least it's not left out all over the table and kotatsu like his smartphones and cameras and wires and violin mute and bow wax and whatever else. He has three smartphones that he uses for his programming and stuff, because he needs to test them, and so they all have wires and stuff going to the computer, and the camera is here or there...

but the thing is, none of that bothers me because I know Mimu uses the stuff and they're right there when he needs them. Yesterday after a very awful fight we had over it, and he was all being pouty saying "I'm the bad one" I took his head in my hands and said "That is not the point! The point is, it isn't just you and I living here, our hobbies are very much alive too." I linked arms and gave him a tour of the house, pointing out that actually, his stuff is all over the place, and my stuff is actually put away almost at all times.

Like, his violin is on top of the sewing machine desk, yeah, where the cats like to jump. Sometimes he even forgets to close the latch on the case, or LEAVES IT OPEN! Not only is it dangerous in case the violin falls, but it's bad for the wood, especially in a country as humid as Japan. But he doesn't really listen when I tell him this. I know he's listening but he doesn't like... take it seriously or even respond like "Oh really? Gosh I better be careful" =_=

My music is always in the guest room, on the couch, in their cases, and all together (we moved the sofa in there and now we sleep on the futons on the floor).

[ammadeena]

I have to admit, I am messy. But I do always know where everything is. And oddly enough, in England I was a LOT neater and more organized. Even stranger: my files on my laptop and HD are all neatly organized in folders in the most logical way.

I'm learning to put stuff in boxes so at least it *looks* more neat. A box keeps stuff together, boxes together can be decorated with leftover Christmas wrapping, and it looks all pretty, and it doesn't look messy, even thoug inside the boxes, it IS still messy. I'm really learning to appreciate boxes, haha.

I'm also learning to not take in the negative energy my mom throws into their living room. My mom will start a fight with my dad over something completely stupid, and both will look at me for support and I'll just be staring into space or into my food while eating it. I'm leaning to just not be part in it. One time I finished my plate, said "thanks" and just started putting my coat on and stuff. And dad says "..aren't you staying for dessert?" I just shook my head. Mom then said "What. Are you surprised? It's not very hospitable here, now is it!?" (clearly indicating that it was my dad's fault by her body language). I just looked at her, said "It takes two to have a fight." and left.

Has my relationship with my mom changed? No. But I'm no longer constantly affected by her no-fun attitude.

I learned that from you, Jess. I don't know how or when, but I did.