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I am sick of journos describing Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman's 2 kids as "adopted"... yeah, so they ARE adopted, but they are also, just their kids..... why make the distinction? when somebody adopts children, they become parents in every way; they ARE the parents of that child.
The reason this is in my head today is because i just read some tabloid (yeah yeah) article about Tom and Katie-i'm-still-a-little-girl Holme's new baby. When writing about it, the journalist wrote something along the lines of "This is Tom and Katie's first child; Tom has 2 adopted children with Nicole Kidman but no natural children of his own...."
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..... and Tom keeps going on about how magical it was to be at the birth of his child, something that he has never experienced before. All i can do is feel sorry for Connor and Isabella (his and nicole's kids).
Being adopted myself, i do feel very hurt when people are so scathing of adoption. When my parents found out that my brother was blind and autistic when he was 6months old, somebody said to my mum, "well, at least he's not your real child" as if that made it ok. Yet another bright spark asked her is she was "going to give him back" like had she kept the fucking receipt?!
As far as i'm concerned, my mum and dad are my mum and dad, i have no desire to meet my birth parents. i don't feel any anger or resentment towards them either- they did what they had to do; they were only 16 at the time after all. I don't really think about them at all to be honest, and i certainly don't feel traumatised or blame anything on my being adopted. My birth parents did the best thing ever when they gave me up- they gave me 2 parents whom i love to bits and who have given me the best life they possibly could. i thank my natural parents for that, and for not going for the "easier" option of abortion. i've met several other adopted children and they seem to htink that they can blame everything that goes wrong in their lives on the fact that they are adopted; GROW UP! Ok, so maybe i'm lucky that i have my parents but still....
Hum. Ranting now aren't i? i guess i'm so protective of my parents and when i read shit like that article... it just makes me so sad and angry.
Sorry for being boring. it's just something i feel strongly about