Just Breath...
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I have to chuckle a little when I read Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan. He has so many one liners that are so profound. One that comes to mind today is this:
Noah: "I feel so calm in comparison."
Paul: "We all do."
This is in reference to their "drama queen" drag queen friend, Infinite Darlene, who is always freaking out over something.
Now, I'm not the calmist person in the world, but I am rather stress free, most of the time. I often find myself telling others to breath, or pray, or both. What strikes me about the above situation is that Infinite Darlene often freaks out about things that really don't matter. Well, they matter to her, in her world, but not really. Most of her freak outs are about trivial things. I am well aware that that's a judgement on my part. lol
What I find about people I know in real life, and some I know online, is that they often freak out about things that become very trivial when real tragedy hits. I find myself often saying that it will all work out somehow. And, it does. Not always the way we want, and not always as fast as we want.
You would think that the longer you live, the more you would be used to situations in life that stress you out. That said, we should be able to take it all in stride, right? Well, not always. Some of the people that freak out most frequently are older than me.
I've noticed that these people tend to take these situations as personal attacks or a reflection on who they are. Perhaps this is because they are used to taking the fall for others. I do know that some of the people on my team have worked for people who have made them the scape goat on more than one occassion.
Most of the time, these people are freaking out about things that they have no control over. And, they prefer not to point fingers. They would rather take the blame. On some level I've been there before. But I'm learning where the boundaries are.
Learning not to cross emotional boundaries is learning to accept a situation when you have no control over it. Yes, you can be upset when someone does something that affects you, but letting go is realizing when you can't do anything about it.
A lot of the time the stresses we live with are about things we have no control over. Realizing this helps to simplify life. It helps us to move on, and make necessary decisions instead of being paralyzed by our feelings.
I will agree that it's a lot easier to see when a situation is outside of our control when we aren't wrapped up in the emotions of the situation. Learning to step out of the situation, and breath, will help us make better decisions. It will also help us to live longer. Stress isn't just aggrevating, it shortens our lives. And I intend to live a long life. ^_^
So, everyone, just breath!
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I have to chuckle a little when I read Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan. He has so many one liners that are so profound. One that comes to mind today is this:
Noah: "I feel so calm in comparison."
Paul: "We all do."
This is in reference to their "drama queen" drag queen friend, Infinite Darlene, who is always freaking out over something.
Now, I'm not the calmist person in the world, but I am rather stress free, most of the time. I often find myself telling others to breath, or pray, or both. What strikes me about the above situation is that Infinite Darlene often freaks out about things that really don't matter. Well, they matter to her, in her world, but not really. Most of her freak outs are about trivial things. I am well aware that that's a judgement on my part. lol
What I find about people I know in real life, and some I know online, is that they often freak out about things that become very trivial when real tragedy hits. I find myself often saying that it will all work out somehow. And, it does. Not always the way we want, and not always as fast as we want.
You would think that the longer you live, the more you would be used to situations in life that stress you out. That said, we should be able to take it all in stride, right? Well, not always. Some of the people that freak out most frequently are older than me.
I've noticed that these people tend to take these situations as personal attacks or a reflection on who they are. Perhaps this is because they are used to taking the fall for others. I do know that some of the people on my team have worked for people who have made them the scape goat on more than one occassion.
Most of the time, these people are freaking out about things that they have no control over. And, they prefer not to point fingers. They would rather take the blame. On some level I've been there before. But I'm learning where the boundaries are.
Learning not to cross emotional boundaries is learning to accept a situation when you have no control over it. Yes, you can be upset when someone does something that affects you, but letting go is realizing when you can't do anything about it.
A lot of the time the stresses we live with are about things we have no control over. Realizing this helps to simplify life. It helps us to move on, and make necessary decisions instead of being paralyzed by our feelings.
I will agree that it's a lot easier to see when a situation is outside of our control when we aren't wrapped up in the emotions of the situation. Learning to step out of the situation, and breath, will help us make better decisions. It will also help us to live longer. Stress isn't just aggrevating, it shortens our lives. And I intend to live a long life. ^_^
So, everyone, just breath!
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