People who are sensitive about their privacy usually put a friends-only banner up on their journal, and you'll see that when you click their name. Most would just prefer you to leave a little comment saying who you are and why you'd like to friend them.
You can watch someone - that is, lurk, without friending, but your name will appear under "watched by" on their profile, so they will know. Obviously all this applies only to entries that aren't public - public stuff is fair game.
On your home page, under the "friends" tab at the top, you'll find tools that will allow you to filter your LJ friends if you wish. For instance, you could set up custom groups. Also, you can keep a list of everyone you've friended, but uncheck the box beside their name if you don't particularly want everything they ever post appearing on your Friends page.
If you want to defriend someone, maybe just because you've drifted apart, this can be a useful way to do so without them being aware you've done so. People sometimes feel a bit hurt if you defriend them without explaining why - though this varies - I'm sure many people don't give a toss. But my personal experience is that this is the stage when a little etiquette is worth observing. It's also, generally, thought to be a bit rude if you leave an anonymous comment on a journal, so log in before commenting. If I forget to do this, I generally post again and apologise under my username.
In fannish circles, probably the worst faut-pas you can commit is spoiling people just before a big ep goes out (remember transmission dates between different countries vary). I can only speak for DW, but my advice there is, if in doubt, use a cut. You might like to add the who_daily LJ group to your friends list - this will help you avoid unintentionally spoiling people!
Hope this helps you.
Sometimes people just go friends-only because, maybe, they'd rather keep their work life separate from fandom.
You can watch someone - that is, lurk, without friending, but your name will appear under "watched by" on their profile, so they will know. Obviously all this applies only to entries that aren't public - public stuff is fair game.
On your home page, under the "friends" tab at the top, you'll find tools that will allow you to filter your LJ friends if you wish. For instance, you could set up custom groups. Also, you can keep a list of everyone you've friended, but uncheck the box beside their name if you don't particularly want everything they ever post appearing on your Friends page.
If you want to defriend someone, maybe just because you've drifted apart, this can be a useful way to do so without them being aware you've done so. People sometimes feel a bit hurt if you defriend them without explaining why - though this varies - I'm sure many people don't give a toss. But my personal experience is that this is the stage when a little etiquette is worth observing. It's also, generally, thought to be a bit rude if you leave an anonymous comment on a journal, so log in before commenting. If I forget to do this, I generally post again and apologise under my username.
In fannish circles, probably the worst faut-pas you can commit is spoiling people just before a big ep goes out (remember transmission dates between different countries vary). I can only speak for DW, but my advice there is, if in doubt, use a cut. You might like to add the who_daily LJ group to your friends list - this will help you avoid unintentionally spoiling people!
Hope this helps you.
Sometimes people just go friends-only because, maybe, they'd rather keep their work life separate from fandom.
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