I've had this happen to me, and I found that the best approach is just to be direct. My situation is that I liked talking to him on the phone but there were no sparks or anything in person. He made the mistake of telling me he was falling in love with me, and this gave me the opening to tell him that I didn't have those kinds of feelings for him, and wouldn't. I hated every second of it, tho. Like you, I knew all too well what rejection felt like, and knowing I was on the delivering end just about killed me.
I think you should just tell him. He has a right to know what your real feelings are and it will be easier for both of you if you end it as soon as possible!
And don't worry about your colleagues at work-let them think what they want! It's your life and you are the one making the decisions in it. Though I can totally understand how you are feeling right now*sighs*
Yeah, I pretty much agree with what's been said above. Moffel is right, hon. The sooner the better. The longer you leave it, the more attached he's going to get, the more it's going to hurt him later.
Do it like a band-aid. Rip it off fast!
It doesn't have to be death at work because you're ending things. If you can do it in a way that emphasizes how much you like him as a person and respect him, then you guys could remain close and work stuff would be fine?
Anyhow, you're in my thoughts and I'll be sending out warm fuzzies in your direction. *hugs*
Oh man, that is a difficult situation indeed. Since I'd be going insane myself, I don't think I can really give you much advice, except for: stay true to your own feelings. What other people may, or may not, think or feel is basically their own problem. Not yours.
All I can say is follow your heart. I don't think it's good to stay in a relationship with someone you don't love for fear of other people's reactions.
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I think you should just tell him. He has a right to know what your real feelings are and it will be easier for both of you if you end it as soon as possible!
And don't worry about your colleagues at work-let them think what they want! It's your life and you are the one making the decisions in it. Though I can totally understand how you are feeling right now*sighs*
Good luck, dear!
*hugs you tight*
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Do it like a band-aid. Rip it off fast!
It doesn't have to be death at work because you're ending things. If you can do it in a way that emphasizes how much you like him as a person and respect him, then you guys could remain close and work stuff would be fine?
Anyhow, you're in my thoughts and I'll be sending out warm fuzzies in your direction. *hugs*
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*HUG*
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All I can say is follow your heart. I don't think it's good to stay in a relationship with someone you don't love for fear of other people's reactions.
Though I know that's very easy for me to say!!
I hope everything works out for you. *hugs* ♥ :)
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