This is beautiful. The most important part is being 'you; whoever that is. I know for myself my identity, sense of self and understanding of my sense of self change periodically. I love the fluidity, the complexity and the uniqueness of this gender journey that we all share regardless of our trans status. I want to affirm you. I want you to know that I support you in being 'you'. I support you in use female pronouns when you are packing and presenting as male. I support you in using male pronouns and a female name or however your gender and identity manifests on a particular day. I don't think presentation and identity need to follow a linear pattern. I also believe that you can be 'male' in certain spaces/communities. I've recently learned that my sense of 'maleness' is tied to my environment. I feel more at ease with my male identity in certain places because I get what it means to be male, where as in other arenas I don't understand the cultural cues and I fall outside of what that community views as 'male' however, I still identify with the term 'male', but it becomes my own construction of male identity. I also hold tight to my female past and the essence of that in my present. Remaining close to this fact givs me an interesting perspective on sex, gender and sexuality. It helps me understand sexual harassment against women, domestic violence and an array of other safety issues that plague women's lives. It's all so complicated and beautiful at the same time. Although I might not announce it, I hold tight to the dyke part of my life. I like that term and feel empowered by it, but resist using it outside of my own inner circles as I have often been pushed out of the community because of the perception of my gender and identity. I'm a shape-shifter, transgender, genderqueer, biological female boi/man. Enjoy the process and feel honored by it, explore it and take it all in as few get to really see the world from an array of perspectives. What a beautiful gift.
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