"But...You're a girl"

[lost_dreamer44]

I had a bit of an identity crisis last night.

Lindsay (my new ladyfriend) spent the night, and lo and behold various bedroom horizontal activities took place. We started talking afterwards, and I told her that I wanted to use a strap-on, but I refused to use something completely fake and unrealistic. I believe my exact words were "I don't want to

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[grrlboiwunder]

its hard to have that conversation. especially if you don't really know where things are going with your lady friend. but if you do decide you see a potential for something greater, then a talk is very necessary. when i told my girlfriend awhile back that i was trans, or well not a girl, i basically related it to her. i said im a boi. she said she didnt get it. i said well you like being a girl, woman a feminist. i mean she was pretty hardcore. she hated being called a chick. so i equated being called chick like me being called a girl because i didnt relate to that word. it held a certain meaning that didnt represent me, so then she said oh you are butch. and i said no. im a boi. not quite man, but far from butch. like if there was a scale of masculinity, i would rate myself at the time a 7 or 7.5 if 10 were absolute stone hardcore man. i would say i rate at like a 9 now. it helped her a bit and she stopped referring to me as a girl. eventually i told her i wanted to transition and she broke up with me. but for a time she was ok with it. i dont know if that helps you at all. if she really isnt open to your identity though, than she isnt worth your time. dont ever compromise or hide yourself because of external being. it will eat you alive. good luck dude.