To Have Another or Not to Have Another: the Second Child debate....

[lossefalme]

So the hubby and I always planned to have two kids. A boy and a girl. We had the boy just as planned. Except I did not enjoy being pregnant at all and had terrible morning sickness. Mostly it's the being pregnant again thing that I dread the most, but on other days, when things aren't going right, I think about everything that having a second

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[lossefalme]

Hehe. We have considered adoption,, and while it would be nice to skip the whole unpleasantness of pregnancy, it is quite expensive. :P I don't think we could afford it even if we really wanted to go that route. I am by nature a scheduler, and not very spontaneous or impulsive. This has kept me from making many bad decisions throughout my life, as well as kept me debt free aside from the house and the car, but also does cause me some headaches, I'll admit. Because I want to plan everything. Even the kids. Lol.

Sinvraal had a very good point when she said it comes down to being a practical decision and not an emotional one. Having the first kid was an emotional decision, but was supported by practical means as well. As far as the second one goes, I don't want a second one enough right now to ignore the practical implications of having a second. I want to go to ComicCon in 2013. I want to go to DragonCon also. I want to visit my sister in Chile next February. I want to go on a vacation to the Caribbean. A second kid makes all of these things impossible. I don't want to give these things up yet. So I have finally decided that there will be no second kid conceived in 2013. :) It's really, really nice to have made up my mind!!!

But... I have also done as you suggested and relaxed my schedule a bit. As of right now I don't want a second kid. However, I will remain open to the idea at a later time for awhile longer past my previously planned date. It will make things harder and less convenient practically in the long run, but I'm counting on the fact that if the time should come when I am emotionally dead set on a second kid, that emotional desire will overcome my hesitation and make the difficulty worth it. :)