Maintenance Check
I like high-maitenance.
I do not like pathological drama-natics. I do not like addiction to conflict in order to feed an emotional habit. That is not high-maintenance - it is a disorder,much like alcoholism.
High-maintenance is someone who has to organize something just so, or have many varations of a particular widget (you know, just in case) or has a zillion gadgets to solve any possible gadget-related any emergency. High-maintenance is someone who has to check in about what you feel, what they feel, if you are feeling the same things, or if you're feeling different things where, why and how much are they different. High-maintenance puts on the ridiculous outfit and asks if it looks okay or tries on ten different outfits and asks you to rate them on a scale of one to ten.
But...
High-maintenance is mutli-faceted and quirky. High maintenance is unpredictable. High-maintenance is complex.
High-maintenance has to explain something to you that seems ridiculous but they do it in such an earnest and heartfelt way that you are charmed.
High-maintenance people need to be understood. Desperately, deeply.
And the best sort of high-maintenance people know that they are. And they love, appreciate and find value and worth from the people who maintain them. They seek out other high-maintenance people and form a network of quirky, complex, needy, interseting, wacky people to support and celebrate those traits as a community.
What a courageous group we are.
I do not like pathological drama-natics. I do not like addiction to conflict in order to feed an emotional habit. That is not high-maintenance - it is a disorder,much like alcoholism.
High-maintenance is someone who has to organize something just so, or have many varations of a particular widget (you know, just in case) or has a zillion gadgets to solve any possible gadget-related any emergency. High-maintenance is someone who has to check in about what you feel, what they feel, if you are feeling the same things, or if you're feeling different things where, why and how much are they different. High-maintenance puts on the ridiculous outfit and asks if it looks okay or tries on ten different outfits and asks you to rate them on a scale of one to ten.
But...
High-maintenance is mutli-faceted and quirky. High maintenance is unpredictable. High-maintenance is complex.
High-maintenance has to explain something to you that seems ridiculous but they do it in such an earnest and heartfelt way that you are charmed.
High-maintenance people need to be understood. Desperately, deeply.
And the best sort of high-maintenance people know that they are. And they love, appreciate and find value and worth from the people who maintain them. They seek out other high-maintenance people and form a network of quirky, complex, needy, interseting, wacky people to support and celebrate those traits as a community.
What a courageous group we are.