The Truth Hurts, and seeing a ghost
I got a letter in the mail the other day.
Dear C.N.B. [wrong middle initial, wife's maiden name],
My name is S.S. My maiden name is S.T. I have reason to believe that you may be my mother.
Before I say any more, I'd like to let you know that I do not want anything monetary, and I will leave any further correspondance up to you. I just feel that if you truly are my mother, you desreve to know how I'm doing.
I am doing okay, though I am in the process of seperating from my husband. That is either here nor there, though. My main reason for writing this letter is to let you know - under the assumption that you are my mother - that you are also a grandmother. My son was born May 21st, 2008. He is a complete joy!
I am not going to judge, nor do I want to make you uncomfortable. If you do not want to respond to my letter, I will understand. If you are not my mother, could you please send me a letter to let me know that I need to keep looking?
If you are my mother, then I hope to hear from you soon! My address is: ...
Love, S.
Wow. Now, I know she isn't their biological mother. But I heard many stories of K & S, the children she took care of for years. I know this must be her, although I admit I'm a little surprised she married and had a kid. She must still be a little young for that, but not unbelievably so.
It would be the easiest thing to simply pretend I never got the letter. It's comforting to think I'd be doing some good by not telling her that the person she feels most fits the role of mother passed away a year ago. But that's not me. I can't do that. What sucks more is there is no phone number or online contact information, so I will have to write this letter out by hand, and she will receive it between Thanksgiving and Christmas.
I know it's all up to me, but I could use some tips/advice/opinions on how to go about this. I'm thinking of putting the fact that she passed away near the top of the letter, so that when she reads the worst part she still has some doubt, then confirm her identity after that. Any other advice would be very helpful.
Along a similar note, I recently ran into a ghost. I was talking to a friend online, and I wanted to send the URL for the slave registry. I was wondering if my wife's information was still up. I wasn't sure how long ago she had registered, so I wasn't sure which name or email she may have used. But I was able to pull up my own info, and from there I found her number and was able to pull up her page. With pictures. She never was much of one for pictures of herself, so I haven't seen her pictures in over a year. It was hard to breathe as the tears were streaming down my face. The next day, I found our wedding pictures buried deep on my hard drive. The following day, the letter arrived. I'm not sure if the universe is trying to tell me something or what. I don't know if the pics were warning me the letter was coming, or if its all some sign of more to come. But anyway, if anyone wants to see her slave registry page, here it is:
http://www.seekdiscipline.com/pictures/495-367-937/
LM
Dear C.N.B. [wrong middle initial, wife's maiden name],
My name is S.S. My maiden name is S.T. I have reason to believe that you may be my mother.
Before I say any more, I'd like to let you know that I do not want anything monetary, and I will leave any further correspondance up to you. I just feel that if you truly are my mother, you desreve to know how I'm doing.
I am doing okay, though I am in the process of seperating from my husband. That is either here nor there, though. My main reason for writing this letter is to let you know - under the assumption that you are my mother - that you are also a grandmother. My son was born May 21st, 2008. He is a complete joy!
I am not going to judge, nor do I want to make you uncomfortable. If you do not want to respond to my letter, I will understand. If you are not my mother, could you please send me a letter to let me know that I need to keep looking?
If you are my mother, then I hope to hear from you soon! My address is: ...
Love, S.
Wow. Now, I know she isn't their biological mother. But I heard many stories of K & S, the children she took care of for years. I know this must be her, although I admit I'm a little surprised she married and had a kid. She must still be a little young for that, but not unbelievably so.
It would be the easiest thing to simply pretend I never got the letter. It's comforting to think I'd be doing some good by not telling her that the person she feels most fits the role of mother passed away a year ago. But that's not me. I can't do that. What sucks more is there is no phone number or online contact information, so I will have to write this letter out by hand, and she will receive it between Thanksgiving and Christmas.
I know it's all up to me, but I could use some tips/advice/opinions on how to go about this. I'm thinking of putting the fact that she passed away near the top of the letter, so that when she reads the worst part she still has some doubt, then confirm her identity after that. Any other advice would be very helpful.
Along a similar note, I recently ran into a ghost. I was talking to a friend online, and I wanted to send the URL for the slave registry. I was wondering if my wife's information was still up. I wasn't sure how long ago she had registered, so I wasn't sure which name or email she may have used. But I was able to pull up my own info, and from there I found her number and was able to pull up her page. With pictures. She never was much of one for pictures of herself, so I haven't seen her pictures in over a year. It was hard to breathe as the tears were streaming down my face. The next day, I found our wedding pictures buried deep on my hard drive. The following day, the letter arrived. I'm not sure if the universe is trying to tell me something or what. I don't know if the pics were warning me the letter was coming, or if its all some sign of more to come. But anyway, if anyone wants to see her slave registry page, here it is:
http://www.seekdiscipline.com/pictures/495-367-937/
LM