What you see is not always what they seem
After some angsty brooding these past few days, I finally decided to suspend my primary facebook account-temporarily-until I have achieved my short term goal: receive an approved application for the bridging course for nurses in Australia OR work in KSA as a nurse/NA (at this point in my career, I really don't care about the position anymore). There were just too many distractions I saw or did in there; playing games and seeing disturbing stuff just to name a few. Now I understand how my friend, who, recently, vowed to not open her facebook account until after October, felt when she came up with that idea.
Her reasons for doing it were personal but that's not something I had the right to share in this space. Mine was also personal and by writing it here, I hope I won't seem like a misanthrope.
A few months ago, when I was sick with the flu and didn't go to work for 5 days, someone from the hospital thought it the perfect opportunity to tell another co-worker (who I will dub as an ex-friend) that I was spreading ill rumours about that person. I wouldn't know something sinister was going on until I noticed I was not on that person's friends list and the hospital's group on facebook anymore.
So what did I do? Ask the person through text if they were mad at me.
And what did that person answer? Did I tell another co-worker about their recent trip to a certain place?
That got me thinking. I don't remember doing something like that. So I sent this co-worker a text to ask if I ever told them about the ex-friend's recent trip. They replied no. I still have the text to prove it.
The ex-friend asked me again, this time I answered no. And the next thing I know, the ex-friend texted back something along the lines of, "It doesn't matter. Friendship over. You did other bad things to me. Good bye."
That got me thinking again. Like...wow! It's not in my character to rub the good things I did to people on their faces, even when I was really tempted to do just that at that very moment. That experience was really an eye-opener. I felt used and then tossed aside. Lesson learned. That day, I vowed not to trust that person and everyone who I believed were involved, ever again. I sound selfish back there but if you were in my shoes, what would you do?
The issue didn't end there apparently. I'm the bad guy now and it seems I am spreading rumours about that person; was what I heard from one of the person's close friends. What bad rumour, really? There I was minding my own business quietly and as peacefully as possible, and then you hear something like that. I really wanted to throw a punch but I knew it wouldn't help. Let them say whatever they want to say.
In the end, karma is a bitch.
That's my side of the story.
Am I interested to know about that person's side?
NO.
Another lesson I learned from this is that no matter how many good things you did to a person, if that person wanted to cut ties with you, they will and always will find excuses to get rid of you.
Lesson learned the hard and painful way, no?
And the final lesson: LOOKS ARE ALWAYS DECEIVING. They may appear docile and sweet on the outside but wait till they open their mouths.
Oh and did I mention karma is a bitch? It already worked it's magic (which prompted me to write this) and it's still working...
Her reasons for doing it were personal but that's not something I had the right to share in this space. Mine was also personal and by writing it here, I hope I won't seem like a misanthrope.
A few months ago, when I was sick with the flu and didn't go to work for 5 days, someone from the hospital thought it the perfect opportunity to tell another co-worker (who I will dub as an ex-friend) that I was spreading ill rumours about that person. I wouldn't know something sinister was going on until I noticed I was not on that person's friends list and the hospital's group on facebook anymore.
So what did I do? Ask the person through text if they were mad at me.
And what did that person answer? Did I tell another co-worker about their recent trip to a certain place?
That got me thinking. I don't remember doing something like that. So I sent this co-worker a text to ask if I ever told them about the ex-friend's recent trip. They replied no. I still have the text to prove it.
The ex-friend asked me again, this time I answered no. And the next thing I know, the ex-friend texted back something along the lines of, "It doesn't matter. Friendship over. You did other bad things to me. Good bye."
That got me thinking again. Like...wow! It's not in my character to rub the good things I did to people on their faces, even when I was really tempted to do just that at that very moment. That experience was really an eye-opener. I felt used and then tossed aside. Lesson learned. That day, I vowed not to trust that person and everyone who I believed were involved, ever again. I sound selfish back there but if you were in my shoes, what would you do?
The issue didn't end there apparently. I'm the bad guy now and it seems I am spreading rumours about that person; was what I heard from one of the person's close friends. What bad rumour, really? There I was minding my own business quietly and as peacefully as possible, and then you hear something like that. I really wanted to throw a punch but I knew it wouldn't help. Let them say whatever they want to say.
In the end, karma is a bitch.
That's my side of the story.
Am I interested to know about that person's side?
NO.
Another lesson I learned from this is that no matter how many good things you did to a person, if that person wanted to cut ties with you, they will and always will find excuses to get rid of you.
Lesson learned the hard and painful way, no?
And the final lesson: LOOKS ARE ALWAYS DECEIVING. They may appear docile and sweet on the outside but wait till they open their mouths.
Oh and did I mention karma is a bitch? It already worked it's magic (which prompted me to write this) and it's still working...