What I really dislike is 5-year-old journals or trolls that added me to friends. I now have a list of 'friends of' that I would rather be rid of.
I would like the option to remove myself from someone's friends page. If they want to read the journal entries that are available to them to read, they can do it at my journal, instead of adding me like some trophy to their profile.
I wish to be completely disassociated with some, and with others, their journal is dead and seeing their username in the friend of category brings up bad memories I wish to pass away. I would really appreciate the ability to remove yourself from being someone's friend.
At the risk of sounding bitchy, I think your putting WAY too much stake in the 'profile'. As you well know, having friends on your list means nothing (and if we were daring enough to presume...) the 'friends of' list is far more accurate to judge someones 'like-ness'. You could simply NOT add them back and they can have a profile that clearly states that although they admire you, you want nothing to do with them.
In other words: I have no idea what your problem with the friends list is. And I dont think the staff do either.
As for the 'friends of' suggestion. Not terrible if it brings bad memories. Perhaps a 'hide list' function from yourself. But the fact is the 'friends of' list is NOT your list, but rather extra information for yourself/others/statistics/whatever. It would defeat the entire purpose of the list if you could suddenly pick and chose who's on it.
Take a few random people I'm 'friend of'. One hasn't posted in her journal for 257 weeks, last I saw. That's literally 5 years, give or take. Even if there was a 'time out' function, she'd no longer be there. Hide list would take care of that.
There's another person, totally offensive, that went around insulting everyone he could and trying to amass a huge friends list. He hasn't posted in his journal ever, really, and the few joke entries he did have were also years ago.
There's also people who have me listed as friends and I think they forgot about it, they give the appearance of having completely forgot about the 'friends' feature of LJ.
I dunno. I just want to clean that list up a little, especially of old users. I think you should have to have permission in order to have someone listed as your friend.
what about the ban_set function in the lj console? that'd remove them from your friend-of listing, though they wouldn't be able to make any comments in your journal in the future (which can be a good or bad thing)...
I can understand where thortok2000 is coming from though.
I've had a problem where lately a few users have made journals with vulgar names and vulgar profiles [ex: "if you've been added to my friends list you've been identified as being interested in bestiality!"] and serial adding people who listed "anthromorphic art" on their interests list, sometimes upwards of 700 users. Anyone who'd see me and others on their friends list would think we were into such things just because we like anthro art.
Do I want to show up as a "friend" of someone making a journal for fans of disgusting behavior? No! Sure I can hide my friends of list, but anyone who stumbles upon theirs will see my username there. It would be nice to be able to reject their "friending" to keep myself from being associated with the like.
Then I hope someone makes a page promoting child pornography and adds your name to it so everyone can see what you are a "fan" of. I used to enjoy friendly people emailing me to say hi until I had to hide my email due to assholes emailing me thinking I enjoyed that crap.
Sounds like some people want lj to be more like myspace. I don't understand myspace, I do understand lj thou. I really don't care who friends me, I doubt anyone looks at my profile ever... except when they're in the process of friending me. Or stalking me, but I'm not that interesting.
You can hide the list from being displayed on your profile (at the bottom here and you can remove people from your Friend Of list by banning them from your journal (on the FAQ here.
I would like the option to remove myself from someone's friends page. If they want to read the journal entries that are available to them to read, they can do it at my journal, instead of adding me like some trophy to their profile.
I wish to be completely disassociated with some, and with others, their journal is dead and seeing their username in the friend of category brings up bad memories I wish to pass away. I would really appreciate the ability to remove yourself from being someone's friend.
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In other words: I have no idea what your problem with the friends list is. And I dont think the staff do either.
As for the 'friends of' suggestion. Not terrible if it brings bad memories. Perhaps a 'hide list' function from yourself. But the fact is the 'friends of' list is NOT your list, but rather extra information for yourself/others/statistics/whatever. It would defeat the entire purpose of the list if you could suddenly pick and chose who's on it.
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Hiding the list would work.
Take a few random people I'm 'friend of'. One hasn't posted in her journal for 257 weeks, last I saw. That's literally 5 years, give or take. Even if there was a 'time out' function, she'd no longer be there. Hide list would take care of that.
There's another person, totally offensive, that went around insulting everyone he could and trying to amass a huge friends list. He hasn't posted in his journal ever, really, and the few joke entries he did have were also years ago.
There's also people who have me listed as friends and I think they forgot about it, they give the appearance of having completely forgot about the 'friends' feature of LJ.
I dunno. I just want to clean that list up a little, especially of old users. I think you should have to have permission in order to have someone listed as your friend.
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I've had a problem where lately a few users have made journals with vulgar names and vulgar profiles [ex: "if you've been added to my friends list you've been identified as being interested in bestiality!"] and serial adding people who listed "anthromorphic art" on their interests list, sometimes upwards of 700 users. Anyone who'd see me and others on their friends list would think we were into such things just because we like anthro art.
Do I want to show up as a "friend" of someone making a journal for fans of disgusting behavior? No! Sure I can hide my friends of list, but anyone who stumbles upon theirs will see my username there. It would be nice to be able to reject their "friending" to keep myself from being associated with the like.
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*standard comment about lacking the ability to edit comments* ;D
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