Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money
Dearest Good Charolette,
Formerly a student of theater, I have always and forever loved a good drama. However, having said that, I really HATE girl drama. Hate is a strong word with an equally strong connotation. Yet I use hate to aptly describe the way I feel about drama involving girls.
I have learned in life that despite what we are told as children, some people really are not worth the effort it takes to maintain a friendship with them. Some people are selfish and immature; their hands and mouths always open to take, take, take. Be it my time, my money, my sympathy, my energy. All they do is open their hands and demand to be given what they want, when they want. I am not about that. That is not to say I believe in the 'bootstraps' theory of self-reliance. But I do believe if someone wants something, ze should work hard for it. What bugs me most is the overwhelming, repulsive sense of entitlement that is deeply intrenched in some people. I often wonder what could have happend to a person in their life and upbringing to make hir think that ze was some how owed attention. I honestly believe either a person is worth of attention, or not. And, though it may be harsh, some people are just not worthy of attention. I'm not saying some people should be ignored. I'm just saying that at any given time, a person should evaluate if hir behavior merits attention right then. Some folks honestly believe that the spot light should follow them at all times. And I am saying that NO not every little princess deserves to be the focal point all the time.
If you are one of those gals who constantly needs attention and constantly wants to focus on yourself, then I think you should shut the fuck up and open your eyes. Because your left eye will see ten people who need attention right then more than you and your right eye will see thirty thousand worthy causes that deserve attention right then. And before you go cross eyed, you will realize that not a one of those people or causes in your line of vision is YOU.
I've also learned that some girls want to be chased. And I'm not about that. I don't play games. I believe that love and compatibility are binary. Either two people fit or they don't. I do not believe that love takes hard work or over exertion. Two people either fit or they do not. Lest you think me harsh, I will elaborate. See, I believe in a thing called "the soul mate." I honestly feel that everyone in the world someone out there in this huge world who is The Righ Person For You Right Now (R) So I think that people who compromise and people who try to make things fit, are actually admitting that they can't find the right person and so they are working on making a 'good enough' person fit. That makes me sad when people give up on the right person for them. Why work at a 'not quite' person when you can easily and effortlessly be living and loving with the right person for you? I don't understand the American Movie Ideal of love and how it manifests in young girls perceptions of love.
I've got to go meet this young frosh now. And I'm late.
laugh at boys when they're not funny,
Boy With Ferrari