hug

[littlebluedog]

I don't know if I'm dating the Chinese girl. We had lunch today, she brought subs and drove us to the park way up on Council Crest, talked about pets, her family in Beijing, the 4th of July, polygamy. I made her laugh a few times

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[crasslass]

Two minutes is dating. Just sayin... :)

I couldn't help but think of that Dave Barry classic.. "The Difference Between Men and Women"..You know, she's thinking: "wow, we've been dating 6 months now".. and he's thinking "wow, time for an oil change already?"

[jaggedigitlpill]

Hilarious!

[jellylover]

love pete yorn.

[pilarcruz]

Ha ha ha, I was five seconds from seeing what you were doing for lunch today!

Maybe you should go on some more dates with her to see if you feel more at home with the label of dating. But yeah, if you haven't been held in a while, hugs like that are pure gold.

[wuweibaby]

she's chinese?

born here or in china?

could be maybe a cultural thing.
cultural differences regarding personal space is a very real thing.

'course, it may not be that at all.

yr on yr own, bud. ;j

[littlebluedog]

Born and raised in Shanghai, moved to the US about 7 years ago.

Initially I thought of the possibility of cultural differences, but I don't think that's the case here; it felt like she was surrendering.

[splitpeasoup]

It's not a cultural thing. You're right about personal space, but male-female hugging of people other than lovers or relatives is actually less common in China than it is in the US.

[wuweibaby]

ah, of course. the hugging.

it was just personal space i was referring to.
i didn't think it through.

thanks =)

[splitpeasoup]

Hugging is good. Dating is good. Platonic friendship is good. You can't lose any way.

[littlebluedog]

If only it was as simple as that. For example, if one person has feelings the other doesn't reciprocate, both lose.

[splitpeasoup]

'Lose' is a strong term. Unrequited love is a painful thing, but it's better than not loving at all. Or so I like to believe.