the paramedic
seeing L and I broke up, I ventured another try at tinder and found the paramedic. He seems like he has his shit together, divorced, has a set of twins a boy and a girl, works for a couple medic squads in the area, is the assistant fire chief and president of his local fire department, works for DFD and has a fulltime job near Philly on a Medic truck.
We made plans to meet for lunch and I was running late so I asked if we could meet for dunkin and he said yes.
He showed up in a giant truck, ok maybe not giant but a ford F250 thing, so we went inside and chatted over iced coffee for about an hour. I can't remember a damn thing we talked about because I wasn't really all that interested in him at the time, he asked if he could see me again and I said i guess so and then we made plans to see Supers Troopers 2 the next day.
Movie date night came and he picked me up in a 2004 Audi with a cracked windshield and a mechanical issue that causes his 4 ways to stay on for about 5 minutes when the car starts up. he says he brought it for cash last year when he won a lawsuit against the township fire department or something. No big deal, it's a car and it runs.
He asked where I wanted to eat and I was honest with him and said I was pretty broke so could we go to Cracker Barrel, I think he was relieved that I chose someplace cheap for dinner.
The movie was good (I didn't tell him I had already seen it with Scooter the day before because I knew he was looking forward to seeing it)
We talked here and there for a week or so and then one day he asked if I wanted to spend the night so I said okay. I was so fucking awkward you would think I had never been with a man before.
His house is a disaster, but I dont care really. He seems moody every now and then but i get that, he works a lot and has a lot on his plate. But something just isn't sitting right with me about a couple things. at this point (2 weeks ago now) i'm having a hard time figuring out what's not quite right but i'm starting to put things together..
Last Thursday he calls me and says "you need to talk me out of not going to work today. ugh, I can't do that and I won't do that because you're 41 years old and should be able to make these decisions on your own, plus it's your effing job to go in. He ended up staying home and picking up a couple shifts on the fire truck.
Now fast forward to Memorial day weekend. I drive up to his house with some stuff for him and as i'm walking up his driveway he yells get in the truck. Ok... thinking we're going to the store or down the road for ice cream he says, we're going to my sisters and you're going to meet my family. ugh.
The family is nice, when we got there one of his sisters came out on the deck and yelled into the house "hey mom! look the paramedic brought a girl with him!"
He introduces me and his other sister said, oh you must be the girl that cooks for him ! OMG...really...you told them i've been cooking for you?!!?! ugh, yes, i cook for him a few times a week when he has 12 or 14 hours shifts.
We sat and chatted and i met his entire family. God I was pissed though. I really need some kind of warning for something like that.
Yesterday I went to his house with plans of going out and doing something but those plans fell through so sat and talked about things, where this is going, what his plans were for the week ect. He says he really isn't sure what he wants, lovely, so this isn't going anywhere. Then he starts opening his mail and he has a 10 day shut off notice from the elec. comp. i'm like oh i got one of those and I had to pay 44.00 to make a payment arrangement.
He says, i'm behind on my payment arrangement ... oh.
So he calls up PPL and talks to someone and I can hear what's being said and the rep says your current bill is 3748.18
I look at the paramedic with a face of udder shock. Please tell me she's mistaken. HOW THE FUCK DOES ONE GET A BILL THAT HIGH!?!??!?!?!
He says he hasn't paid it in a very long time.
holy mother of God....
then he says he's behind on his payments to the bankruptcy court that files in March and his truck payment is at LEAST 5 months behind oh and he doesn't have car insurance on any of his cars or truck.
I knew something wasn't right with this guy.... and now i know
We made plans to meet for lunch and I was running late so I asked if we could meet for dunkin and he said yes.
He showed up in a giant truck, ok maybe not giant but a ford F250 thing, so we went inside and chatted over iced coffee for about an hour. I can't remember a damn thing we talked about because I wasn't really all that interested in him at the time, he asked if he could see me again and I said i guess so and then we made plans to see Supers Troopers 2 the next day.
Movie date night came and he picked me up in a 2004 Audi with a cracked windshield and a mechanical issue that causes his 4 ways to stay on for about 5 minutes when the car starts up. he says he brought it for cash last year when he won a lawsuit against the township fire department or something. No big deal, it's a car and it runs.
He asked where I wanted to eat and I was honest with him and said I was pretty broke so could we go to Cracker Barrel, I think he was relieved that I chose someplace cheap for dinner.
The movie was good (I didn't tell him I had already seen it with Scooter the day before because I knew he was looking forward to seeing it)
We talked here and there for a week or so and then one day he asked if I wanted to spend the night so I said okay. I was so fucking awkward you would think I had never been with a man before.
His house is a disaster, but I dont care really. He seems moody every now and then but i get that, he works a lot and has a lot on his plate. But something just isn't sitting right with me about a couple things. at this point (2 weeks ago now) i'm having a hard time figuring out what's not quite right but i'm starting to put things together..
Last Thursday he calls me and says "you need to talk me out of not going to work today. ugh, I can't do that and I won't do that because you're 41 years old and should be able to make these decisions on your own, plus it's your effing job to go in. He ended up staying home and picking up a couple shifts on the fire truck.
Now fast forward to Memorial day weekend. I drive up to his house with some stuff for him and as i'm walking up his driveway he yells get in the truck. Ok... thinking we're going to the store or down the road for ice cream he says, we're going to my sisters and you're going to meet my family. ugh.
The family is nice, when we got there one of his sisters came out on the deck and yelled into the house "hey mom! look the paramedic brought a girl with him!"
He introduces me and his other sister said, oh you must be the girl that cooks for him ! OMG...really...you told them i've been cooking for you?!!?! ugh, yes, i cook for him a few times a week when he has 12 or 14 hours shifts.
We sat and chatted and i met his entire family. God I was pissed though. I really need some kind of warning for something like that.
Yesterday I went to his house with plans of going out and doing something but those plans fell through so sat and talked about things, where this is going, what his plans were for the week ect. He says he really isn't sure what he wants, lovely, so this isn't going anywhere. Then he starts opening his mail and he has a 10 day shut off notice from the elec. comp. i'm like oh i got one of those and I had to pay 44.00 to make a payment arrangement.
He says, i'm behind on my payment arrangement ... oh.
So he calls up PPL and talks to someone and I can hear what's being said and the rep says your current bill is 3748.18
I look at the paramedic with a face of udder shock. Please tell me she's mistaken. HOW THE FUCK DOES ONE GET A BILL THAT HIGH!?!??!?!?!
He says he hasn't paid it in a very long time.
holy mother of God....
then he says he's behind on his payments to the bankruptcy court that files in March and his truck payment is at LEAST 5 months behind oh and he doesn't have car insurance on any of his cars or truck.
I knew something wasn't right with this guy.... and now i know