DISCUSSON - virginity

[lissie_pissie]

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Comments

[stop_theworld]

I'm still a virgin and I have serious concerns about a penis EVER fitting up my vagina. Ouch. :(

[lissie_pissie]

ME TOO OH MY GOD I'M SO TIGHT, SERIOUSLY.

[chippers87]

Dude, I can't even get a tampon in. How the hell am I supposed to cram a penis up there?

[lissie_pissie]

the first time I put a tampon in I nearly threw up because it was so traumatizing. I can't imagine a dick will be much different the first time.

[stop_theworld]

NEITHER CAN I. It's so bad.

[lozzy]

Ditto. I want to eventually, but I'm also afraid of the pain!

[talkofcake]

Hey dude. Totally felt that way too, but it just...slowly happens. But you might want to start with penetration on your own, start small and get bigger. I'm serious. Because otherwise you could have a painful first time when you could have a wonderful first time, yk? AND DON'T BE SCARED. Because it's just that your hymen is probably not all the way broken if you've never had full penetration before. And if you break it over time (like I did), it won't hurt by the time you have sex.

AND SEX CAN FEEL SUPER SUPER GOOD. So..yeah. :D

[stop_theworld]

I know, and I've thought about that, but it hurts so much just to try to get my finger in that I always wind up stopping. LMAO, if I ever get a serious boyfriend, I'll practice more.

[lissie_pissie]

He's gotten fingers in, I just really don't like it as much as I do other stuff. So that concerns me.

[talkofcake]

Hmm. I'm trying to figure out how I did this, because I used to have the same problem. I actually think...time? IDK. I just remember one day I wasn't able to hardly get my finger in there, and then suddenly it seemed like I could a little easier. It's definitely the hymen though. I remember I think I found a website that explained the hymen and what happened when it broke etc. and that helped because I knew what was going on down there. It even gave pictures, like 'this is what a hymen intact looks like' and 'this is a partially broken' etc.

I don't knowwww. Just, next time you're really turned on and already wet, try with your finger. Don't do it unless you're very relaxed and very turned on, because when you are relaxed, wet, and turned on (ROFLOL idk) I know your muscles down there stop tensing up so bad when you try.

[stop_theworld]

Yeah, no, that makes a lot of sense. I love love love how straightforward you are about this stuff. YOU SHOULD TEACH CLASSES. Hahaha, and then all the children's parents would freak out. But actually, this is what sex ed should be like.

[talkofcake]

I think sex ed is being taught wrong, but I also don't think it should be ONLY explicit instructions. I think that sex ed should teach kids that you don't HAVE to have sex, that it's NOT the only way you're going to feel good about yourself and fit in. Because man, I remember my class, after sex ed and the condoms were passed out? MOST OF THEM WENT AND HAD SEX. And at that age, like 15, 16, not many ppl are ready. And it's usually a one-night stand. I wish sex ed would teach that the act can be more than just that: an act. It can be really awesome and it comes with a lot of emotions you have to be responsible and mature enough to deal with.

But yes, there should be much more taught in sex ed. Like, for instance, your first time can hurt. Or that having sex doesn't always work out perfectly. Or that there's real live consequences that can accompany sex if you're not careful. IDK my sex ed sucked SO BAD.

[stop_theworld]

Oh of course, definitely. I think it's very important to discuss the emotional side as well as the physical and get across that waiting is okay. On the other hand, I do think contraception MUST be taught early, because some people? Are going to have sex anyway, and it's so important that they know how to do it safely. Mainly, I just hate how careful sex ed is. How biological. Yeah, guess what, sex involves pleasure and sex involves pain, and it can be messy and it can be glorious, and I think all those things need to come into it because most people aren't going to know how to ask.

[dlb42694]

yeah i think i broke my hymen when i was young because of gymnastics but im not sure how can you tell?

[lissie_pissie]

I DON'T WANT A PAINFUL FIRST TIME D: D: D:

[talkofcake]

And you won't! Really! Can I ask you something - are you considering having sex with The Boy? He seems awesome and you seem to really like him.

I ask this because maybe he can help you. If you guys are planning on having sex, let him know ahead of time that you're extremely tight, so maybe the first few times you only do oral and fingering let's say. And if he fingers you, you'll slowly start to expand as your hymen weakens. Also be doing this on your own. Start small. Seriously, a small object. IDK, a pen? And slowly get bigger. Buy yourself a dildo to encourage you maybe.

I DON'T KNOWWW ROFL. All I know is that penetration, for me, is extremely enjoyable. I hope you'll discover some day that it is toooo! In fact, ever since discovering penetration, if I'm using, like, a dildo and a vibrator at the same time (or let's say having sex and using a vibrator at the same time), my orgasms are SO. POWERFUL. Oh my God.